[babey.love.xoxo]

So my boyfriend cheated on me twice and I don't want to brake up with him even know his gunna continue to cheat and hurt me more , but I really like him and Im really hurt about it all and I just need a way to make him feel how I do without me having to lower myself and cheat on him. Ideas..?

[jelly-bean]

If your boyfriend has already cheated on you and you know he will do it again, why on earth would you want to continue this relationship? You say you want to hurt him back without cheating on him. What sort of relationship is it when both people want to hurt each other. You deserve so much more than a cheating boyfriend. Maybe you think that he is as good as you can get. I hope not because you are wrong. I think you need to get rid of this guy so that there is room for someone who is a whole lot better and faithful to you.

[sad_dad2012]

Originally Posted by babey.love.xoxo

So my boyfriend cheated on me twice and I don't want to brake up with him even know his gunna continue to cheat and hurt me more , but I really like him and Im really hurt about it all and I just need a way to make him feel how I do without me having to lower myself and cheat on him. Ideas..?

All in all, it's a hurtful game that leaves permanent scars. Why continue to play?
"People,
You can never change the way they feel,
Better let them do just what they will,
For they will,
If you let them, they'll steal your heart from you"

Get out of it now, and begin recovering. ( PERIOD )

[shezbut]

He isn't going to stop cheating on you. It's his way.

I think that you're hypothesizing that he'll stop cheating once he's been hurt. Maybe so. Who's to say that you're the one that he really cares about though? In my experience, guys usually fall for their first & then go hog wild for a while. Some guys stay in that mindset for years ~ others pass through it more quickly.

However, I would advise against being with your bf completely until he is obviously over this phase that he's currently stuck in. Please don't lower yourself by cheating on him. IF you did cheat on him (and he didn't give you the wanted response), you would be really hurting inside!!! Your self-esteem would be incredibly low. Let go of him....today. Holding on to this ideal bf, which he isn't meeting, is big trouble. Let go of that ideal NOW.

Gentle hugs to you.

[whatbeanbelieved]

Just adding my affirmation to the "get out NOW" mode of ideas. No point sticking around in a relationship where you aren't valued and your values aren't respected.

But the point you seem to be missing baby.love.xoxo is that you are NOT going to be able to make him feel the way you do. Theres absolutely no way on earth it will happen. He has to want to stop cheating and be with you because its what HE wants. And from the looks of things, he simply isn't interested in respecting you or your feelings. I urge you once more to go and find someone worthy or your time and effort - if this person cannot treat you the way you deserve to be treated then liking him more than anyone else in the world won't make the tiniest bit of difference. The less time spent on him the better i think. Focus on what you want from life - we only get one after all.