[EyesofSadness3]

With almost all relationships I have tried to start with guys, I was always the one to fall first. I learned that it is bad to become attached at early stages in dating, so I promised myself I would stop doing that. A guy that has took me on a few dates is really just a great guy, I can be myself with him and he finds it adorable. He told me today that he is starting to become attached and that this does not usually happen this early. I have put up a wall, so that this would not happen to me, and now he likes me more than I like him. I don't know if I should let myself fall for him or keep my distance. It seems safer this time, because of how nice he is and how he says he feels. I am afraid to trust him.

Sometimes we can't help but become attached to people quickly - its how we deal with this thats the issue. I don't think theres any reason for you to put a wall up but i think it is wise to be on your guard. Maybe explain briefly that because of previous experiences you feel more comfortable taking things slow and if he's a gentleman he will respect this and allow your feelings time to develop naturally. I think it would be a shame if you denied yourself this oppertunity but bare in mind that it is exactly this, an oppertunity. Once you've found the balance between maintaining your safety and getting to know this person better things will roll much more smoothly. Hope ive been helpful. All the best.

[Leed]

Hi ~ I agree with bb2023 -- tell him you'd like to take it slowly due to the past -- but sometimes we just can't help but fall. He sounds like a really nice guy, so hopefully he's going to understand your need to slow things down. If you find that you can trust him, and he IS what he seems to be, then go ahead!!

I hope this works out. You're smart to be careful and slow it down. You don't want a repeat of the past. I wish you the very best. Please keep us posted on how things turn out, ok? God bless & take care, Hugs, Lee