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Oct 25, 2012, 01:54 PM
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I saw my exhusband online today. We started chatting about misc stuff - I'm selling my motorcycle and asked if he knew anyone who wanted to buy it (as he said he did a few years back). Started talking, updating, etc.
He brought up his recent wedding. Recap: He cheated on me with a woman he works for. Divorced me b/c he said he didn't want to have kids and I did, and is now remarried to her and she has 2 small kids. So, he's a liar. After he brought up his wedding, I joking said..."So how is it being a dad when you didn't even want kids in the first place. Oh, and how's the wife of yours, the one i thought you were cheating on me with but you denied. Guess you can't deny it now, eigh?" It felt so good! He didn't answer and only said "so here we go"....but I wanted him to freaking think about it. Is that a lame thing I said or funny? It felt good!! I just don't want him to think I give a crap. I do, I guess, or else I wouldn't have mentioned it, but still.... Lame or funny, or just what he deserves? |
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Oct 25, 2012, 02:11 PM
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Heya, made me smile anyway! It might not be what people care to hear, to be put on the spot like that, in a kind of 'I told you so' way but sometimes, darn it, it feels good right?
I dont think it sounded like you gave much of a crap, just retaliating to the wedding stuff, so all's fair in my book! :-) |
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Oct 25, 2012, 02:12 PM
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Not lame at all. I bet it did feel good. You called him on those things and finally could shove it in his face. He definitely deserved it.
+1 Funny |
| doggiedo
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Oct 25, 2012, 03:21 PM
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Good for you!! Pretty funny in my book. So he didn't want kids, huh? What a liar. He deserved what you gave him! And he deserves more!
Way to go!! Hugs, Lee 
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Oct 25, 2012, 04:25 PM
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I'd chalk it up as a win!
 lol I'd love the opportunity for a few subtle jabs at my ex, but speaking terms went out the window awhile go...I suppose bringing up the matter in front of her "other guy" to break things off will just have to do....  Good for you! 
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Oct 25, 2012, 05:29 PM
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Seemed a bit bitter...but you know, how could he expect getting away with talking about his wedding to you?
I think anyone who has done what he has done deserves to be put on the spot for that! 
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| Suki22
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Oct 25, 2012, 06:07 PM
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It is bitter but I am bitter. I hope I don't stay like this forever. I know it's under my control...I have to just move I and get over it. I told this new guy I'm.dating, which was a stupid idea...I just happened to mention it. I feel like an idiot for doing it and now I feel even stupider for mentioning it to him and admitting that I'm shallow and bitter. Now I just feel crap now that the high of rubbing his face in it has worn off.
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| Anonymous33145, shezbut
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Oct 25, 2012, 06:13 PM
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Oct 25, 2012, 06:15 PM
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Oh Doggiedo, please be kind to yourself. Not that you come over as bitter, but are you not allowed to be bitter? He treated you bad, I think anyone in your position would be bitter. And isnt anger, bitterness all part of the healing process? It doesnt go away overnight huh? The only thing that would make it bad is if you couldnt move on, and it was all-encompassing. But you have moved on, you've a lovely new fella now, and one that might be more worthy of you. I just thought what you did tonight was a little dig, and one that was deserved tbh.
Anyway, dont feel stupid, its all fine yeah? Sorry for nagging you! |
| Suki22
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Oct 25, 2012, 06:43 PM
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ps, I can totally relate and understand how expressing yourself feels great and then 30 minutes later, not so much. I agree with Riot, please be kind to yourself. You have every right to your feelings!
(And I think he treated you horribly and you have every right to feel and even express your feelings ... and if it came off as whatever, it's OK! You are human. So next time, maybe you will do it a little differently) And you aren't so bitter, because you have a new S/O!
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Oct 26, 2012, 08:19 AM
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Sorry that you can relate Rose - that stinks. I know how it is.
I really feel like I hate his new wife - I just saw more pix on FB...I don't think I hate anyone. I hate her and I hate him. At least I didn't call her what I was thinking - starts with a "who" and ends with the letters "re" lol.. |
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Oct 26, 2012, 12:34 PM
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I don't think it's lame or funny. I think you had to say it and that's good, because it will help you heal now that he's heard what you have to say.
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