Trying to balance my life

We've been dating for 5 months now and he's now faced with some stressful life events of being on the verge of getting fired/laid off. His last pay check was less than $30. I asked him what can I do for him and he saids, "don't stop talking to me."

The stress that he's faced with brings up alot of stress triggers of the same things I dealt with my last bf. I am trying so hard to be there for my bf now. He now wants to spend time with me all the time. I feel guilty when I'm not available for him but I am a graduate student and education is so important to me.

I am so scared that I'll take on his stress and ending up taking care of everything. I don't know how to balance my own life, graduate student, a gf and a gf that can also be there for my bf.

What happened in the past was, I paid all the bills, I mange everything in our lives and in turn, my exbf took advantage of me.

I can see myself already panicking of repeating my past and running away too soon from my current bf.

Heya

I think you'll be ok, as you've been there before, doing everything. I guess you have to use what you learned last time, and make sure you dont give him too much of you, your time and your money. You're in control now, so dont panic!!

I hope you manage to strike a balance where you can help him emotionally (but not financially) just not at the cost of yourself, if you know what I mean. You could encourage him and support him if he starts looking for another job, sometimes someone just cheering from the sidelines can mean a lot. I don't think you need to feel guilty for having a life of your own and your studies. If he gets too clingy, perhaps sit down and talk to him? Am sure if he cares for you he'll understand.