[djjonson]

So im male 16 and theres this pretty girl that i really like but i wouldnt want anything to with her. I never want a relationshipjust cause i dont know. But i just wont b able to make her happy and i have too low self esteem and itd be unfair for her to put up with that. Anyways we are both kind of a bit outcast and a bit shy. Shes more confident than me. Im a bit bad at hiding a crush. I dont stare at her but sometimes i get caught looking at her. I always fyind myself lost in her eyes and she notices. But i think she likes me back cuz shes given me signals. So i keep pushing her away. But im afraid she might try to get closer to me. What do i do? I wish i wasnt able to be attracted to anyone, then i wouldnt have let on i like her, and i wouldnt be in this mess. I dont want to hurt her feelings. What do i do?

[Jan1212]

Awww that's cute you're at the age of experiementing with your feelings I can tell because you sound unsure and that's not bad at all, I have been there. My cousin is 16 he's so young... there's so much time.. I don't have much on teen advice (I'm sure there are teenagers in PC who can give you better advice.) but who says you gotta jump straight to BF/GF title. Make conversation about a favorite band, about a class, music. I think that'll make it easier and take away a lot of anxiety to express any other feelings you have, both for you and her. I am sure she's feeling the same way.

I go with what Jan said first off. You don't have to jump into things with her instantly -- just get to know her and see where it goes from there. Second, don't write yourself off for something you can't possibly know. That is, that you'd be "bad for her" and all this because of low self esteem? I'm here to tell you that there are plenty of people out there with low self esteem but that doesn't mean they aren't worthy to be someone's gf or bf! it's an issue to work on but shouldn't exclude you from having a relationship! What if you could be the best thing for her right now? Sure it seems like a remote chance in your mind but there is that chance right? The next guy isn't necessarily and more worthy than you are to be her friend or more... Besides if she's giving you signals that's great!

[djjonson]

I see your points, but i know it will not work. so i am not gonna try anything and keep trying to not like her.

[Jan1212]

I was the same way and I regret it I wish I couldve tried, instead of having so much doubt in myself. I am still afriad to try many things and I am older now. It doesn't have to be that time, but soon you'll have the courage to do things