[djjonson]

Like girls have liked me b4 and ive always ran away. I am ashamed of myself when i like a girl. I feel awkward if im somewhere with only girls and not one guy there. Its not commitment issues because im afraid of non. commitment things too. Its not like i have so much going on that i dont have time for women. Im like afraid of having sex and even kissing or holding hands. Ive never had a traumatic relationship experience or anything. I wouldnt want a gf either bcuz i have low self esteem and i know it would never work out. But when i think about it, if i wasnt so wierd and insecure i would like a girl to make happy. So whats wrong with me? Wat do i do?

Also, if i did want a relationship, i would want more just like hanging out making her happy. Sex and stuff isnt on top of my list, in fact its near the bottom, so whats wrong with me here?

Also im male 16. And its not that im immature, its not like i respect women too much. And its not because im too sweet, cuz im not. So wats up with me?

[Jan1212]

Dude, you're only 16. I don't know if this place has many teens that go through the same thing since it's a psychiatric forum. Nothing wrong with you. Teens go through this stuff, your hormones are going haywire. Nothing wrong wit you. Is it possible to talk to your school counselor? My cousin is 16 as well and I know he talks to a counselor, I made him join the chess club, and video gaming club. He also plays soccer after school - this isn't to make you do what other people want - but this is an opportunity to go out and socialize with your peers. Do things to find out what you like. People your age are growing up and finding themselves, you get to do that while playing / talking / sharing interests with your peers. If a realtinshp isn't at the top of your list - why are you worrying about it? Don't pressure yourself, do what matters right now, stay focused in school

[Leed]

I agree with Jan. You have PLENTY of time to get involved with girls. 16 isn't the "magic age" where someone says you HAVE to get involved with girls. You don't have to. Lots of guys don't. Lots of guys stay focused in school and wait until they're older to get involved in dating & stuff. There's a lifetime to do that. So don't think you're weird or that there's something wrong with you cause there isn't. You're just fine!

Stop worrying okay? Try to have some fun & school too besides getting good grades.

[krosis]

I'm a 19 year old girl, and have a similar situation as you, except with guys. I actually had a boyfriend my freshman year of high school, but we broke up because I was afraid to even kiss him. Haven't had a relationship since then. I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along and understand my inhibitions about being in some sort romantic relationship and is patient about them. So my advice is similar to those above, there is plenty of time to get into stuff like this. I know that the pressure to be in a relationship in high school is high (it was for me anyway), but, also like those above have said, don't worry too much about it.

[djjonson]

k. I see your points.