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I've been in a relationship for one year.
But I have this issue I hope I'm not the only one. When my fiancé and I argue(no cussing/yelling) He says bye we'll talk tomorrow bye and hangs up! But I tell him no we need to discuss our issues to make things better. He never wants to talk he rather hang up on me. I call him back but he turns off his phone! I think that's very rude and it makes me more angry to the point where I always want to end the relationship because we'll never get to the agreement. Help please I do love him but I don't know if I should put up with this! |
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If all he does is hang up on you when you try to talk about your conflicts or fights then this may be a sign that your relationship is falling apart. I have been through this with my fiancee and I'm telling you, we were almost at the point of breaking up. I mean I actually joined a couple of dating sites until we talked things over and worked it out and we both apologized.
Does he apologize or show empathy or compassion towards you? |
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Is he young? It could be that he's slightly immature.
If he doesn't want to discuss things immediately when emotions are high, that I can understand. But he should talk later when things are calmer. I wish you luck. |
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Do you guys talk about it the next day? Communication is very important in a relationship, without communication there basically is no relationship.
Have you tried explaining to him how this makes you feel when you are not arguing?
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Hmm...?.. you've been with this guy for 1 year and already engaged? you guys need more time to experience each other before jumping into a serious relationship, know how to work things out, see if you can live together, some people can put up with something really annoying, but if you just can't.. then you should really think about living your life with him.
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If the guy has to run away or put off discussions about things you're concerned about, then he's trying to control the relationship and is immature. He thinks he should get to decide when you guys talk. If he can't listen to you when you need to be listened to, and compromise when you need him to compromise, I would say that's a poor match.
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He's 21 Iam 20! Well anyways we broke up and he wants the ring back.
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On the one hand, if he's ending the conversation because emotions are too fired up, that's understandable, though he should do it in a different manner, hanging up on someone is a way of slapping someone in the face or shutting them off, so to speak. It IS rude. You're not wrong about that. If he's the type to come back to the disagreement later, then it's just resolving how he "leaves the argument" that needs to happen.
I wouldn't say that it's a sign of a relationship ending, unless this is new behavior and some negative things have been happening along with your seeing that in other ways the relationship is deteriorating. I just wouldn't jump to that conclusion. If these arguments never get revisited in a calmer manner than I think he is avoiding important matters and If you can't get him to come to the table on these things, then I would take a good long hard look at your relationship. Arguments, no matter how you look at them are confrontations resulting from a difference in values and opinions and if you can't discuss, come to an agreement or compromise because of this, how can you expect your relationship to grow? |
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We usually apologize but that doesn't solve the issues He'll ignore the subjects, act like he's busy etc! |
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