[Karlam1991]

My fiancé just got a job he has been there 2/3 months.
His manger is a young pretty lady and she's married I believe.
One day him and me argue so we didn't talk for a day
Well later on I found out they had been texting each other he told her him and I were taking a break and they had this conversation
And way even before this she had sent a file of a song with her very beautiful voice( Christian song)..
This is very disrespectful to me.
I don't know if I should be concerned
I'm really worried he shouldn't tell other girls he barely knows about our relationship.
And she shouldn't be sending song to other man when she's married
I questioned him about this and he got mad he said I don't trust him.
But that's not fair. If this situation was the other way around he would've broken up with me!! I don't understand should i let it go?
He said he wasn't going to text her anymore if that made me happy
BUT they texted each other again the next day!
I'm sad I don't feel special

You have every right to be suspicious or on edge. The fact he said you were on a break to another woman that he's texting back and forth would make me crazy too (well not a lady but a guy for me) but anyway..

It does sound pretty disrespectful at the very least but more seriously as if he's doing some pretty heavy flirting with her too it sounds like.

No you should not let this go. he's wrong.

[Karlam1991]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

You have every right to be suspicious or on edge. The fact he said you were on a break to another woman that he's texting back and forth would make me crazy too (well not a lady but a guy for me) but anyway..

It does sound pretty disrespectful at the very least but more seriously as if he's doing some pretty heavy flirting with her too it sounds like.

No you should not let this go. he's wrong.

Hmmm you think it's flirting?? I don't know I got a bad feeling that he is texting other girls...the girl is married I dont think her husband would like the idea of a man texting his girl.
But thanks for your response!! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that finds this suspicious.

[Anika.]

Were you taking a break or just had an argument?

[Karlam1991]

Originally Posted by Anika.

Were you taking a break or just had an argument?

We did discuss about taking a break but it never really happened we just didn't talk for a day that's it. I would understand if we would've taken a break and it had lasted for like a month!
But no only one day, feels to me like he went running to her as soon as we hung up! =\

[Anika.]

I was just not understanding weather he outright lied about the break thing to her, which would be quite bad I think.

Don't think he should be discussing you relationship with women he barely knows either. And it is not exactly work related. Not saying anything is going on there, but I also think it's a bit disrespectful to be telling people all your business.

[Karlam1991]

Originally Posted by Anika.

I was just not understanding weather he outright lied about the break thing to her, which would be quite bad I think.

Don't think he should be discussing you relationship with women he barely knows either. And it is not exactly work related. Not saying anything is going on there, but I also think it's a bit disrespectful to be telling people all your business.

Thanks that's what I think too!
I wouldn't mind if he were to tell his guys friends
Because I do too with my girlfriends to seek advice.
But not to a woman he hardly knows
I don't understand, could he start to have feelings for her.?
I don't know.
I'm scared because we're engaged. I don't want him to cheat on me it would break my heart.

[Anika.]

Ok well I don't know, I just read your other thread and maybe getting married soon isn't a good idea.

There seems to be communication problems happening quite a bit between the two of you, issues not getting dealt with, and sort of pushed under the rug. I understand you want to work on them and he seems to want to ignore them. So now this thing happening here a long with it..

My bf has female friends, and I have some male friends, but they are just that.. they are friends, and we all know each other, have hung out together. Did he tell you he would not text her anymore and then did text her after? I know you said he did again the next day but it was not clear if that was after he promised not to or before.

You guys are pretty young and maybe too young or not ready to be getting married. Counseling is one option, if he would agree to that, and maybe not a bad idea at all.

The thing about people who cheat is that they will do it one way or the other and you can't really stop them. Even if you could stop them from doing it by controlling the situations, would you want to be with that person knowing they only didn't cheat because you made them not able to, and otherwise they would have? I wouldn't.

I don't know if he would or would not, or if this girl is just a friend, there really isn't enough to go on there.

[Karlam1991]

Originally Posted by Anika.

Ok well I don't know, I just read your other thread and maybe getting married soon isn't a good idea.

There seems to be communication problems happening quite a bit between the two of you, issues not getting dealt with, and sort of pushed under the rug. I understand you want to work on them and he seems to want to ignore them. So now this thing happening here a long with it..

My bf has female friends, and I have some male friends, but they are just that.. they are friends, and we all know each other, have hung out together. Did he tell you he would not text here anymore and then did text her after? I know you said he did again the next day but it was not clear if that was after he promised not to or before.

You guys are pretty young and maybe too young or not ready to be getting married. Counseling is one option, if he would agree to that, and maybe not a bad idea at all.

The thing about people who cheat is that they will do it one way or the other and you can't really stop them. Even if you could stop them from doing it by controlling the situations, would you want to be with that person knowing they only didn't cheat because you made them not able to, and otherwise they would have? I wouldn't.

I don't know if he would or would not, or if this girl is just a friend, there really isn't enough to go on there.

You are so right!!!!
And yea as soon as I found the text.. I got upset and asked why he told her about our stuff...than he said Fine if it bothers u that much I won't talk to any other girl! The next morning was Black Friday she texted him where are you he said I'm on my way! (To work).. He wasn't late or anything.
Well anyways we broke up now because we just weren't understanding each other.... Might get back together later on thou.

Originally Posted by Karlam1991

You are so right!!!!
And yea as soon as I found the text.. I got upset and asked why he told her about our stuff...than he said Fine if it bothers u that much I won't talk to any other girl! The next morning was Black Friday she texted him where are you he said I'm on my way! (To work).. He wasn't late or anything.
Well anyways we broke up now because we just weren't understanding each other.... Might get back together later on thou.

I wouldn't get back together with this jerk. He's messing around, if not outright cheating he seems like he's playing with fire at the very least. he had just said "fine I won't talk to any other girl" out of anger and obviously not serious but to know how you feel about him texting her and the just blatantly ignoring that fact again, is just ridiculous. you deserve better.