[MAL10]

Can anyone give me an idea of what to expect from couples counselling? What sort of questions are asked, do they dig into the past?

Thanks

[Leed]

Are you talking about marriage counseling or just couples counseling? My now ex-husband and I went for counseling and they did want to know about the past, and how we got together, and what it was like dating. Then they wanted to know all about the marriage itself and how things got so bad.

They did want some history, as far as our families and where we "came from." For instance, they wanted to know about my family because I had some issues, so i told them I came from parents who were both alcoholics. That answered some questions that they had. I had alot of fears, etc., and evidently that made sense to them.

So yes, they do want to know some of the past. They don't delve TOO much into it, and if there's some things you don't want to talk about, just tell them. I'm sure they'll understand.

If you're going to couples counseling, I applaud you. At least you're trying before throwing in the towel. Good for you! God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[MAL10]

Hi,

Thanks for that - yes couples counselling - been together 9 years but not married. Have communication issues and find it difficult to talk openly about issues - so hopefully this will help. Very scary though

Thanks

Well MAL, it is dependent on the counselor you get. There are many different approaches to counseling so it's a hard thing to narrow down. No one here can really say what they will ask you for certain. Some may want to delve into the past, family of origin and things like that with their counseling (in general not speaking to marriage or couples counseling specifically) while others don't even consider that and think that just going forward with therapy or counseling and dealing with what's going on today, the behaviors and challenges that are happening without worrying about why. Really you can't know until you get there.