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Jun 26, 2006, 01:45 PM
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Well, I need to just hang in there. I havn't seen my exboyfriend now for a month. My councelor told me about what rebounding is. So I want to not involve myself with another man and wanted to know how long I should wait. About a year? Anyway we were together for 9 years and I broke up because I was worn out, (Taking School, Teenage son, Priorities, too tired) Anyway my ex got a new woman and God Bless them, I hope it goes very well. I feel so freed. I just need advice about rebounding. I was told by councelor that until a certain amount of time passes that it is called a rebound relationship. So I thnik that I should not send out any messages that I need a man to be close to (sometimes, I feel that way, but should control myself) Any way, summer is boring without much to do. I'm glad I am in this group. Any stories would be appreciated. Maybe I am finally ready to just stay alone at this time, I don't know. Any ideas or stories about success.
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Jun 26, 2006, 02:43 PM
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I rebounded a lot in my teenage years. Being married (twice over) now, I kinda don't know what to say, except that i t seems as though you are doing well under the painful circumstances. But that does not take away the hurt. Nine years is a long time!
I am sorry for the hurt you must be feeling, though I do admire your responsible approach!!
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Jun 26, 2006, 03:54 PM
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Use this time to reflect and to get to know yourself again. It is not just as simple that you wont just date for a year. Use this time to understand why your past relationships haven't worked out. The more you understand yourself and remind yourself who you are, then you would be able to bring more into a new relationship in the future. There is a difference from grieving and living in regret then from learning from your past experiences. For years now you've played the role as the girlfriend and every other role there could be that so many people find themselves lost in. Now this is your time to get to know yourself again. Take advantage of this time and feel free to think for yourself and not having to revolve your life around another person. Your life doesn't have to be in a standstill just because you're no longer in a relationship. This is your life, do as you please, do as you will and simply smile.
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Jun 26, 2006, 06:17 PM
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excellent post, jen1fer82!!! pat
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