[sarahxxkristine]

My name is sarah - I was adopted from Korea as a child....

and to be honest....i just simply cant relate to people my age. I dont drink, virgin til marriage....no drugs, no parties...no nothing. the things that are most important to 22 year olds, arent important to me at all and it leaves me feeling like an outcast. I just dont know how to find a way to feel like i have things in common with those around me. I never know what to talk about or say or do....I just exist and it makes the "best time of my life" long, tedious and rather irritating.... :/

Have you ever tried to meet others with the same outlook and values in life that you have? If you are religious, perhaps try something with the church? Or perhaps you could look on the net to find groups nearby of folk your age, or even forums of folks with the same values?

It really is one of the best times, before bogged down with work, bills etc. What is it you like to do? Have you any interests? Perhaps if you have, there is another way to meet like minded folk, joining clubs. Have you ever thought of traveling? Perhaps that's more for you. At least the folk you'd meet would have tales to tell, rather than just who go the most drunk. There's a whole world out there, and not everyone will be just wanting to get drunk.

I hope you find your way to enjoy. :-)

[Scotty204]

What are some of your interests? Maybe you can search for groups in your area with similar interests.

I agree with both posts here. The idea that all of theme "your age" are like those that are partying and doing irresponsible and silly immature stuff is not completely true. For one, the wild ones are more noticeable so it makes the more mature, quiet ones kind of fade into the background. So look harder, first of all, not to the typical 20-ish person, but those that aren't hanging with the crowd. Go places that they would hang out. Go to cafes, book stores and the like. They are out there. And don't limit yourself to your age group either. You sound very mature, and perhaps someone not necessarily in your peer group would be better. Dont' get me wrong, I'm not saying look for a 40 something to hang out with or anything but a little older?

And all that, in addition to what scotty and riotgrrrl said. Groups, clubs, churches and even some interest-focused forums online could help you find people of all ages, closer to your interests and maturity level.

good luck *hug*

[unaluna]

I am a lot older but I found that fIttIng in and helping here made me more comfortable In real Life. It's like you get the happy family background you never had but that everybody else expects.

Originally Posted by hankster

I am a lot older but I found that fIttIng in and helping here made me more comfortable In real Life. It's like you get the happy family background you never had but that everybody else expects.

This is so true. I am socially awkward and don't get out, it helped me to to feel accepted and somwhat normal to be here. There are all kinds of people here too with differing interests and maturity levels you're bound to find a friend or 3 here!

[kcakes]

Hi Sarah!

I think that's quite normal. I'm 21, and have little interesting and going out partying. I'm quite content sitting at home. What about joining some sort of website or group to meet people with similar interests? Or involving yourself in some sort of class or workshop?

Best of luck

[kcakes]

Hi Sarah!

I can relate to you completely. I feel I am unable to relate to others who are my age as well. I'm 21 and have little interest in going out and partying.

Perhaps you should join a message board or website where you can meet others with similar hobbies and interests? Or take a workshop or class?