[Humaira Chaudhry]

hi , my daughter has bipolar since age of 15 and use seraqule for treatment , she is stable but on and off mood swing because she fell in love with 18 year old high school drop off drug abuser . he lives back home and always ask for money in return of some romantic wording . she was sending all her paycheck and willing to do every thing for him . we try to block her internet and ph but nothing works . does any one knows the solution for us to solve this problem . any counselor in Virginia who has helped this kind of problem . i will really appreciate that .

thanks

[Travelinglady]

Hi! I can see why you're so upset. Your daughter is really causing problems with being involved with this guy. If you look around here in Psych Central, you'll see that very few people here are official counselors and even those who are don't generally get involved in the forums because that's not their job.

However, as fellow people with issues of all kinds who are here to support and to get support, we will be glad to listen.

Actually, you might get more response if you post about your daughter in the parenting forum.

I do think it would be good if you could talk to a counselor about your daughter. I know teenagers don't think their parents know anything. I've had two of them, so I can understand!

[shezbut]

I wish that I had some specific advice for you to follow, and help your daughter through the pain of "first love", but I don't. I just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking positive, good thoughts for you. I hope that your daughter sees the light soon. Such a difficult time of life! Especially having to sit on your thumbs as you see your daughter making poor decisions ~ I have 2 daughters myself, and don't look forward to that time in their lives. Very best wishes to you and your family!

[Perna]

If he lives at home with his parents too, I would try to get their name/address/phone and communicate with them; they may be having as much trouble with him as you are and be more than willing to help or have ideas on how to stop their son's behavior toward your daughter. If your daughter has no job/money of her own, I would get a different kind of phone for her that you control instead of her and not give her internet at all unless she needs it for school. If she is not acting responsibly/as an adult, do not treat her with trust/as an adult.