[Bfourme123]

A year ago my financee told me he had twins by a lady he works with. That it happen during a time when we were going thru. (BS) I'm going thru a moment where my kids are grown now. And I'm tire of all his (BS) I want to leave to but don't. I dont know what he's doing at work. And sometimes I keepthese kids. I don't trust him. He never has any money because of child support for both baby ma. The first baby ma use to work with him as well. I don't have anyone to talk with my died in car crash 3 years ago and I'm still hurting from that. I don't really have family seems every one is on there on course. I just feel lost and tired. He works all the time and I'm just tired. I feel he is using me.

[Leed]

You say you just "don't leave him" Why? Are you afraid of being alone? Honey, there is NOTHING WRONG with being alone. It's a way of getting to know yourself. But if you don't like yourself, you won't like being alone. You have to LIKE yourself in order to like being alone.

I love being alone. I mean, I don't LOVE myself. But I don't mind being alone. I seldom have any privacy, since both my adult kids moved back home. So when I do have some alone time, I relish it!

But I certainly wouldn't put up with someone who was USING ME. If you think this guy is just staying with you for a place to hang his hat, toss him out! Don't put up with it. And if YOU are being used as his BABYSITTER, STOP IT. Make him PAY for one, or else make him PAY YOU. You don't have to be used like this! This is BS..

Life is too short to be walked all over. Take your power back. Don't let him him keep your power -- take it back. You deserve someone to love you. You deserve someone to cherish and adore you and treat you like you deserve to be treated. This guy doesn't sound like the one for you!

God bless and please take care! Hugs, Lee

[shezbut]

I don't hear any positive aspects of you staying with your fiance. It really does sound like you should leave him ~ you don't trust him. Your description doesn't sound as though he is trustworthy. I'm sure that you know ~ but I'll remind you anyway, trust is essential to a healthy relationship!! If you don't have trust, what in the world do you have?

Kick him out now (or move out if you're in his place). He doesn't deserve to have you to depend upon for money or babysitting. That's a bunch of baloney! I can certainly relate to loneliness, but your self-esteem will drop further the longer that you stay with him. And we all need all the positive self-esteem that we can get! You don't need this baloney and you do deserve better.

Gentle hugs to you...