[seeker1950]

Here's how it happened: I was driving down to Louisville to see my twin grandsons and stopped at the Morehead, KY rest area for a break. On my way out, I heard, "Hi, Patty," and turned to see John. He was there on his way to a wedding ceremony of a friend's daughter. We talked on a bench for almost an hour. He and I had been in junior high/high school together, had a folk band together playing at assemblies, dated casually even in college. I thought, "WOW," he's now divorced, we know each other, etc.! He emailed several times asking to come over to see my house which I have just sold, and for me to see his house which he is fixing up. We live just minutes from each other. We each visited at each others' residences briefly, but during his time here at my home, he let me know quickly that he's interested in SEX!!!!, and that we "could have a good time" and he was ready to "sew his oats!" I told him we could have a good time without sex! I had hoped this would be someone with whom I could actually build a relationship! LOL. He called me once shortly thereafter, I think just to test the waters, and I remained impersonal.
I'm 55, have been thru the wringer with men, and will NEVER enter into another haphazard chaotic noncommital relationship with sex.
What do y'all think????
Seeker

[radio_flyer]

I think your very wise......

[Fuzzybear]

"!.......... will NEVER enter into another haphazard chaotic noncommital relationship (with sex) "

Good thinkin'

[valexand]

I would sooooo totally go for it! What have you got to lose? You have walked every difficult path before already, right? With the experience that you have now, I think you'll have a great time with this guy. He was honest with you. He gave you heads up on where he stands and he made his offer. Now it is upon you to choose. You have your kids and grandkids right? So why don't you go and enjoy some company with this man. What have you got to lose?

[Sujin]

Hi Seeker,

I think you are doing the right thing. People view sex in different ways. A casual "fling" might make one person happy, while it can be downright destructive for someone else.

If it is a relationship you are seeking, I think it is better to connect with someone who wants the same things that you do. Of course it is up to you what you should do, but you must follow your own instincts and be true to yourself.

Love,
Zen

[desirae]

I think you need to be honest and tell him that you don't have the patience and energy for a sexual uncommitted relationship. Then if he acts as though he's not interested in a relationship then that will be the sign you need to determine whether he's worth the effort. That would be cool if he was though, that's a romantic story.

i'm on the side of the fence to let that one slide......i know you're a caring woman, patty, and it sounds as if he just wants some "playtime". no problem with that, except that there's always another "player" waiting in the wings. good luck, xoxoxo pat

[seeker1950]

Faye/Pat...you are so wise,and your perception is the same as mine here. Thanks to all of you for the wonderful feedback.
Patty