Used UP

I'm DONE. I just cannot believe that men could be so incredibly SELFISH. All they care about are their stupid wieners. It doesn't matter what size they are guys. You can't even use your hearts!!! Why do they have to USE women to satisfy their stupid needs? They could do that by themselves. I NEED to be loved. Sure, I can love myself, but I'm human, I need other humans to love me too!!! I think men are cowards these days. Women have become more their equals (but not really), and geez it's so intimidating............It's like women are still not allowed to have needs though. We are still supposed to be satisfying our men?? For what? What the heck do they do for me, but cause heartache????? And then they'll go and cheat on you and try to make it your fault. You can't love me, then why should I give myself to you. Hello, people??? Isn't sex supposed to be an expression of LOVE????? Not today, it's just something people do simply for pleasure. And look at all of the lives created from loveless sex. Real good for humanity, huh? Women have to tip toe around the guys sexual needs because we are scared they'll cheat. Puhleease! Go on and cheat then, and you can go live that woman. Why do they expect women to put up with their BS?????

Sometimes I used to wish that people could actually discuss their beliefs about love and sex early on in the relationship. Now I am married so it isn't a concern for me. I still think it would be a good idea. It is better than finding out later on that your beliefs and values aren't as shared as you thought they were. It sounds like you are saying that your needs were not met - and also that you have the moral high ground. When you are ready to try again, I suggest being careful not to go to the other extreme. There are plenty of men out there who are too ready to commit and too quick to talk about love. They are also not sufficiently mature emotionally and will not be able to give you genuine love.

Men lie though. They will say anything to get what they want. Some women too, but it's more common among men. I wish I knew how to tell if someone is lying. And the kicker is that if you fall for those lies, and end up foolishly sleeping with them, they label you as loose. It's so hilarious. I can't wait until I'm 80 and do not have to deal with this matter anymore. It is a total waste of brain cells. Until then, I have to put up with men sniffing my butt like an animal. I swear that the guy I'm "with" now tries to initiate sex by just coming up to me and humping me like my unneutered labrador did when I was a kid. And then he pouts if he doesn't get any...the guy, not the lab. Geez, even a dog will go lay down and lick himself............ As for the men who try to sweep women off their feet. Yes, this apparently happened to an old friend of mine who got swept, then tied the knot. The guy is now posing on FB with a new chick. What a di**..........and that's all I have to say for now.

I shouldn't laugh, but the thing about the woofa made me laugh! Sorry. That really is men all over tho - not having a clue. My fella's idea of getting me in the mood is to say something like 'I'll have a go on those' while looking at my breasts, or 'phwooar' in a dirty old man way when I get undressed for bed. That's it. Needless to say, it doesn't do a thing for me!

But back to Aquarius8's post, yes, men lie. Loads. Met quite a few liars in my youth. I'd like to say it stops when men get older and more mature, but that would make me a liar too. But it does seem to lessen.

Well, speaking as a guy Aquarius, I am sorry you've been so disappointed by my gender. In my observations, you are completely half right...those you are speaking of have one thing on their mind and one thing only, and there are quite a few of them out there...more than a few. I am sorry you've had to experience them.

However, please don't allow them to jade you in your view of us all. There are plenty of great guys out there, guys who'll treat a lady as a lady deserves to be treated. Who'll love you, not what you can offer them. In short, good guys. They're there...they just need be found, is all.

I would be remiss to say...I know you didn't ask for advice on the matter, but if the guy you're "with" now is doing something you're not okay with in the humping, tell him to stop! You deserve more respect than that, IMO, and he needs to know that you don't appreciate it. He might think he's just being playful or...frisky, I guess would be the word? Anyway, if you don't appreciate it, you have every right in the world to ask of him to stop, and he owes it to you out of basic respect not to. I hope I didn't interject my opinion where it wasn't asked for...I just felt that needed to be said. My apologies if I overstepped my boundaries.

Please don't let the actions of the few ruin your perception of the whole. I would offer, if I can be of any help or if you simply need to vent, consider my PM box open.

Hugs,
Harley

Harley, you are SUCH a gentleman... that consider my PM box open just blows me away. Sorry cannot find quotation marks on the phone keyboard in the dark.

But I just had to say that. Aquarius, I hope your next guy is Harleys brother in spirit.

There was a saying I read, to the effect that women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex.