[pyramidgirl]

My husband and I are separated for 1 year. He is stationed in a Bahrain, while I remain here in the states. I am wondering if anyone can suggest ways of gently communicating to my husband that I need him to still cultivate our relationship, despite the miles. I do not want to hurt his feelings. He thinks he is a great husband, and he is.--just not at a distance.

[curlyq]

I simply would tell him what you feel you need from him emotionally or in whatever way you mean. You could begin with telling him how you feel about him--such as that you miss him and love him. I would just say it in a happy tone and even joke a little bit about some things, too, to keep the mood light. I can understand how tough it must be being seperated.

Welcome to the forums by the way. I hope you'll post more and perhaps talk about what you would like from him here so you can "get it out" what it is you want.

There are many helpful, insightful folks here who are willing to listen. Thanks for posting.

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[mj14]

pyramidgirl, it can be more difficult for some people to communicate than others. Talk to your husband, and see how receptive he is to being more communicative. But you may have to find a compromise. This may sound silly, but my mother used to give me pre-addressed postcards to send back to her from college, sometimes even with printed questions, so all I had to do was check them off and send them back. She would have liked more personal letters, but this was at least something she knew I would get done in my busy college-girl lifestyle.

I'm not saying that is the right solution for you, but if he is not naturally communicative, you may need to find something that still lets you feel his presence that he can actually fulfill.

Good luck, and let us know how you are doing.

mj