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Jan 28, 2013, 02:32 PM
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My girlfriend plans on going back to her hometown, 5 hours away from where me and her live now.
We both have GAD, Panic Disorder, and BPD II, so we got alone very well by helping eachother through our issues. Her brother is having a baby, and that's the sole reason she wants to go back. I understand the excitement over a niece/nephew, but she would need to get a job, and her brother works, so it's not like she will even be there that often. Especially since she'd be attending college at the same time. I can't figure out any way whatsoever to convince her to stay. Nothing has even gotten close to working. I know I'll be sent in a suicidal spiral if she leaves and I can't handle that. She's far from ready to live on her own, but she thinks that she's ready... I've tried everything. Even tried explaining that just knowing that she is only a few minutes away has saved me from so many episodes. Her response that suicidality would be an issue if she left? You are backing me into a corner that I'll never get out of." I need her to stay here, and I know she needs it too but the idea is already stuck in her head. I only have 4 months until she leaves and I have no clue what to do. Please help me...any input is greatly appreciated 
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Jan 28, 2013, 03:10 PM
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((((JD)))) I understand how hard it is to say 'good bye' to those we love and enjoy being with, but if it is at the expense of your health and well-being in this manner, I hope you will share this with your T. Perhaps you can work on gaining tools to help prepare for the separation, and then to have a safety plan and a strong support system once your SO moves.
It is incredibly important to see how strong and lovely you are and that you CAN do this. Also, long distance relationships are not out of the realm of possibility. They are hard but can work! In addition, if you truly love your SO, it's important to be supportive and to encourage that person to grow (whether you agree or not). And especially to not close any doors between you. Wish them well and keep the door open to them with love. 
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