Retiring????

My husband brought up the fact he would like to retire (more so me) by next year and move to our lake house Know this may sound very selfish... but I am still 20 years from retirement age I know he cares for me... but to isolate me more Don't know what to think obout this???? Thoughts

I think you've answered it in your own post - it feels like isolation. I wonder if he thinks it will be tranquil, and thinking you both can enjoy a slower pace. Best thing is to talk, and to see if you can reach a compromise. Perhaps you could retire instead 5-10 years time?

Good luck!

Did you guys talk about it? How does he feel if you kept on working and postponed retirement? I think more conversation with him might help get your feelings out in the open and maybe help him better understand where you are coming from. Good luck Hun.

I agree with the others. It's not fair for him to arbitrarily decide that you're going to retire when YOU are 20 years from retirement age! It sounds like he didn't even consult you. That's not fair. It might be okay for him, but what about you? Does he make these decisions like this often -- without consulting you at all?

It's time to sit down and talk -- and get some compromise going. He can't just decide for BOTH of you! Marriage is a partnership -- both have to make the decisions, right? Maybe he needs a reminder. Or a kick in the pants. LOL Good luck and let us know how you come out.

God bless & take care.. Hugs, Lee

Thank you folks.... I am still mad with him... and no, you can not reason with this person.... just angry!!!!