[BelleCat]

I decided what I posted before was a little too much. And a little too dramatic in the moment.

So here's the real question:

Is it a good idea to continue to be friends with someone even though you want more from them, and they don't and have in fact found someone of interest, but you're so crazy about this person it's driving you nuts?

[Leed]

I take it that this someone is your best friend, but now you've developed a love interest, and this person has not, and has now found a love interest of his/her own.

You can still be friends sweetie, but I think I would back off a bit, since it's hurting you so much. Who would want to hang around someone all the time when their feelings aren't being reciprocated?? That would be TOO painful for anyone!! Why not just see this person every now and then instead of all the time like you are now? Don't torture youself. Perhaps in time this person will realize how much they miss you, and will also realize they have feelings for you too! Give it some time. It may OR may not happen. You just have to wait.

In the meantime, don't torture youself. Stay clear as much as you can and find other friends to spend time with. I'm sure you have a bunch of other friends. I wish you the very best. Will you please keep us informed? I'd appreciate it. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[BelleCat]

Originally Posted by Leed

I take it that this someone is your best friend, but now you've developed a love interest, and this person has not, and has now found a love interest of his/her own.

You can still be friends sweetie, but I think I would back off a bit, since it's hurting you so much. Who would want to hang around someone all the time when their feelings aren't being reciprocated?? That would be TOO painful for anyone!! Why not just see this person every now and then instead of all the time like you are now? Don't torture youself. Perhaps in time this person will realize how much they miss you, and will also realize they have feelings for you too! Give it some time. It may OR may not happen. You just have to wait.

In the meantime, don't torture youself. Stay clear as much as you can and find other friends to spend time with. I'm sure you have a bunch of other friends. I wish you the very best. Will you please keep us informed? I'd appreciate it. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

Thanks for the advice, I will keep that in mind. But he is actually my only friend, so that's what made it so difficult.

[Scotty204]

Of course you can stay friends but unfortunately since they found someone you will have to just hang back and wait it out.

[maggy.ng]

Bellecat,

I got a friend like the person you are crazy about. We are best friends for 4 years. At that time, I was into him so bad. He liked me. But we couldn't come to any thing. We chose to be best friends. Now we both know that is a smart choice. We can help, understand deeply, make joke, etc. Sometimes it's so romantic. In fact, we are just friends. He is a playboy. We never date, never in a relationship. I feel comfortable. At any time, I need help, he appears, helps me to some extent unconditionally.

Be friend! Then you will see its benefit. There is no need to be in a relationship. We could have a good person, ready by your side around us.

I hope you will get through soon. Hugs to ya.