There's this one depressed girl I met and I want to help her out by befriending her and possibly becoming her boyfriend, but she is depressed and is pushing me away. I think she's afraid of getting hurt and possibly hates herself..

I know what it's like since I've been like that most of my life, but I still don't know how to gain her trust. I'm confident in my looks/personality, but I just don't know what to do.

Oh, and this is all online. We've never met in real life.
Any ideas/thoughts?

[Leed]

Why not send her a message and tell her that you've suffered from depression for a long time too, and you know what it's like. You can word things differently so you don't come on too strongly, but just let her know that you CAN be there for her, if she so desires. You'd like to be her friend -- and you can tell her that you're lonely too (if that's the case). Just mention things that you know about HER that you've experienced too. That might make her feel more comfortable.

Just some thoughts. Hope it works, if you decide to do it. Take care. Hugs, Lee

[acesmum]

your situation is actually complicated. first of all, to gain trust, one needs to see you personally i think. you have to look her in her eyes and say whatever you feel for her. but if its not possible to meet up, then you just have to call her. you can tell from someone's voice if he is sincere or not. just be honest, dont focus too much on what will she like to hear as this might veer you off to the wrong direction. let her know why you like her, and tell her that you've been through the same thing ( depression ).