[stieg]

Yes indeed that hateful day known as valentines day is this week. How many single men and women who can't get a date suffer everytime from sadness, depression, hate and grief going to the stores and seeing valentines day merchandise or your related ones recieving gifts from their loved ones. This is one day many wish to fall asleep the whole day until valentines day is over. I've never celebrate this day(except two ocassions with 2 ex-girlfriends) and i won't celebrate this one. Yeah i know this is a commercialized holiday just like christmas but it's still painful after valentines day is over for singles who know it's hard as hell to find a date or someone to spend some time with. I guess my new year's resolution to end my single life will never be accomplished. Life is not fair...NOT FAIR!

[BelleCat]

Originally Posted by stieg

Yes indeed that hateful day known as valentines day is this week. How many single men and women who can't get a date suffer everytime from sadness, depression, hate and grief going to the stores and seeing valentines day merchandise or your related ones recieving gifts from their loved ones. This is one day many wish to fall asleep the whole day until valentines day is over. I've never celebrate this day(except two ocassions with 2 ex-girlfriends) and i won't celebrate this one. Yeah i know this is a commercialized holiday just like christmas but it's still painful after valentines day is over for singles who know it's hard as hell to find a date or someone to spend some time with. I guess my new year's resolution to end my single life will never be accomplished. Life is not fair...NOT FAIR!

I buy myself chocolate.

[Leed]

What's even worse is when you're married and your husband doesn't give you anything. My 1st husband was like that.

[maggy.ng]

I hate V-day, as well. I did hope it for a long time to be with my bf. But he is traveling with his ex. Luckily, on V-day, I'm gonna join in my best cousin's birthday party. I can survive. I will hang out, buy chocolate, eat at a luxurious restaurant, etc like a couple but by myself. God bless me.

[maggy.ng]

Originally Posted by stieg

I guess my new year's resolution to end my single life will never be accomplished. Life is not fair...NOT FAIR!

Don't worry, you could welcome a new member to your single zone.

[NoCake]

I believe I gained my chocolate addiction on this day. Or was it Halloween?

[studentofthegame]

i've been single for nearly 4 years. i can't lie and say it doesn't bother me, but that's healthy.

what's unhealthy is getting all depressed because it's V-day. do yourself a favour, get up early and go for a run. get inspired with a book or a podcast or something and spend the day making plans to better yourself.

[eskielover]

Let's see. that's V-day....victory day....woo hoo, thank heavens I'm single & what a victory that is to be able to take care of one's self, to NOT be dependent on someone else. I see absolutely NOTHING wrong with being single on valentines day. For me it was a victory to finally be single & something to be celebrated, not to feel bad about.

[Chocolatte]

I don't really feel bad about not having anyone on the 14th any more than I do the rest of the year. But then again I don't know many people at all and don't know anyone personally who receive special attention on that day so I guess it's not getting rubbed in my face. I also deactivate my Facebook on that day.

I'm married and cannot stand the holiday. It's a marketing scam that has no meaning, but gives me an extra chance to to not do enough, or not be creative enough.

[AngelWolf3]

I like the ideas you all listed here to try to look at it in a more positive light, like deactivating facebook for the day, or taking myself out to dinner. Maybe some sushi for me that day...

But even when I wasn't single, I tended to agree with the fact that it is so commercialized. Another Hallmark holiday, like Sweetest day...!

Victory day, I like that Eskielover.

Valentines schmalentines! Its fake, corny & commercialised. However, I do like picking up stuff for the house just after valentines day - I've treated myself to some gorgeously girly mugs and heart shaped bowls over the years in the sales so I kinda like to look around the shops!

I guess its whatever you want it to be. It's not upset me since school & peer pressure when the only year I did get a card was from my brother who felt sorry for me! Even now, as am finally in a relationship, we tend to ignore it. I'd rather get a card saying he was thinking of me on any other day than valentines day, or even a bunch of supermarket flowers. Least then its because he's thought of it, and not when some team of marketing folk decided that he should pay $100 for a $15 bunch of flowers on Feb 14th. In fact, I would be cross if he did spend that money!

Please don't let it upset you. It really is just rubbish! Spoil yourself and show yourself some love instead, and do something you really like to do.

I love the holiday, and am single, hopelessly single. I don't hate it because it's not a judgement on my singlehood. I am single and I don't have anyone to share the day with but to me, it's just another recognition of something good, Love and romance. Nothing wrong with celebrating it or having that day but that's just me... I guess every holiday celebration if thought of this way could offend someone and bother them... but then What about Black history month? Should I feel left out because I'm half japanese and caucasian? No. it's just recognizing something. meh.

I do understand making you wish you were with someone, though. I do. I feel for those that do have a hard time with it and it seems to zoom in on their area of lack. That is, an SO of some sort. *hugs to you all that have no Valentine to love*

Oh and about commercialism. It's a money-driven world. Business will always take every opportunity to monetize anything, any holiday, event or even subject. If you celebrate it, celebrate it focusing on what it is, not what you can give or get. It's about the special person on the other end, not about showering them with expensive gifts. Although I wil say I am a giver and love to do that, that's just me, I enjoy giving.

Ok I've rambled enough.

I'm bothered by Valentine's Day, but not because of the day itself, but because I'm alone. And unlike many people on this thread, I've always been single. I'm not going through a phase of a few years of being single, I'm not just out of a relationship and happy about it. I'm glad other people are happy with being single (on Valentine's Day and other days), but realistically for me, it's just another way for the world to mock me. To show me something I'll never have. I would like to be able to say someday that I at least had a date for Valentine's Day, or at least for any day, but I'm hard-pressed to even find people to go with me to even a concert for example. A concert that literally everyone I know will be attending. And I still go alone. And it's assigned seating for some of them, so it's not that I can go then find people once I get there. The last concert I went to was the first time in a long time that I actually went with someone. I guess I can just pretend that it was a date.

V-Day is a sad day for me. I have never been in a relationship that lasted until a V-day, and I have been single for years. No woman could want to date me. I don't think too much about V-day, because like all the holidays, it's a regular, lonely day for me.

Also my dad's funeral was held on V-day when he committed suicide.

[jitters]

Originally Posted by stieg

Life is not fair...NOT FAIR!

Oh, honey, you're just realizing this now?? In all seriousness, if you think about it, most relationships aren't going to last a lifetime. There will be tears, heartbreak, and reclaimed singlehood at some point in the future for most of those lovey-dovey couples celebrating V-Day this year. Loneliness bites all of us in the keister on Valentine's Day...no one escapes it.

Feel better now? Even more seriouser, you seem young(ish?) and I'm betting that you'll laugh at your cynical tirade one of these Valentine's Days. Still, I'm going to have to say that it's always unwise to make your happiness dependent on the decisions of others. Please don't make dating a "goal".

Me, I've earned my cynicism and will snarkily revel in it this year while downing chocolate like there's no tomorrow. VALENTINE'S CHOCOLATE CALORIES DON'T COUNT! It's a rule.

[hamster-bamster]

Yeah, having lived here for two decades I have never come to understand why someone would dip strawberries in chocolate. I like them separately. Isn't it very weird to pair strawberries and chocolate?

[jitters]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

Yeah, having lived here for two decades I have never come to understand why someone would dip strawberries in chocolate. I like them separately. Isn't it very weird to pair strawberries and chocolate?

Have you ever tried a chocolate dipped strawberry?

[Brianna84]

I'm single for the first time in 5 years this Valentines Day. Most of those last 5 V-Days were disappointing. I'm a little lonely this year but I decided that Valentines Day should be about all types of love, not just romantic love, so I took the opportunity to send all my friends Valentines cards that let them know how happy I am that they are in my life. Y'know, just like elementary school! It felt great. I know we have all be conditioned to put this weird significance on Valentines Day and I fully understand the pain that it can cause. I remember reading this poem called **** valentines day or something once. It just goes to show a lot of people feel that way. But everything, Valentine's Day included, is what you make of.it.

[IowaFarmGal]

I've been single for 33 years. I actually do better single. Trying to be in a relationship was just painful and hopeless. I'm much more stable this way. I can buy my own chocolate and flowers with a lot less trouble. I just had my 33 divorce anniversary.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by jitters

Have you ever tried a chocolate dipped strawberry?

No. I only eat very dark chocolate. At least 70% chocolate but better 85% and higher. And only pure chocolate, untarnished by any combinations. And 365 days a year, every day.