[Oystersoul]

I'm a 35 yo female and have always had issues with my sexuality.
I present as lesbian because for me this is easiest although most of my previous sexual experiences have been negative.
I have now been enlightened to an alternative of asexuality and its like a weight has been lifted! Although this is still pretty unheard of!
It's really difficult trying to separate depression from my sexuality because I was raised in a strict household where anything other than heterosexuality was dirty and wrong....

I don't know what I'm actually asking or stating here? Does anyone have any words of wisdom, thoughts or experiences of this or how to deal with this in an already cluttered and damaged mind?

I'm new here and don't even know if this is the place to ask - Nowt like just jumping on in!!

[hamster-bamster]

I would wait with embracing asexuality because depression can cloud your thinking and perception. I am strongly heterosexual by nature but during severe depression and on medications that rendered me anorgasmic and killed my libido I would look at heterosexual couples kissing on the streets with utter surprise. What were they doing and why? It was not clear to me at all. I forgot how it feels to want a man.

But now I am fine. Off bad medications, not depressed, and back to my heterosexual baseline.

[hamster-bamster]

In other words, to know your sexuality you need to overcome both depression and the unfortunate legacy of strict upbringing.

[Oystersoul]

Possibly? Although I've always known I was different.....
Sex with men was always 'awful' that was before all the bad stuff happened. Lesbian felt 'safer' but only since having been pointed in the direction of Aven have my feelings felt explained.
I guess sexual identity gets put on the back burner when dealing with depression?
I don't know where conformity ends and depression starts?

Thank you for your insight x

[danipedrosa]

Originally Posted by Oystersoul

I'm a 35 yo female and have always had issues with my sexuality.
I present as lesbian because for me this is easiest although most of my previous sexual experiences have been negative.
I have now been enlightened to an alternative of asexuality and its like a weight has been lifted! Although this is still pretty unheard of!
It's really difficult trying to separate depression from my sexuality because I was raised in a strict household where anything other than heterosexuality was dirty and wrong....

I don't know what I'm actually asking or stating here? Does anyone have any words of wisdom, thoughts or experiences of this or how to deal with this in an already cluttered and damaged mind?

I'm new here and don't even know if this is the place to ask - Nowt like just jumping on in!!

dont worry about that, we all are different but society seems that in some issues like sexuality wants us to be equal. if we are not mentally or physically equal, how come we need to be sexually identical. makes no sense, just dont let mary clair or vogue magazine to dictate how you need to live and feel.

Hope you have a great day.