[HollyC]

I have been dating my boyfriend for about two years and have gotten to know his family and he knows mine pretty well. About a year and a half ago my boyfriend's father started to date someone that boyfriend works with. This woman is also the person that introduced my boyfriend and I. I should say that this woman and I are not friends. We have no type of relationship. She is just someone I know because we are friends with the same people if that makes any kind of sense. Anyways, no one is my boyfriends family likes her. This woman does things on purpose to hurt my boyfriend. At holiday time she meaningfully leaves him out so that he would be alone over the holiday. Of course he comes to my house on those holidays. If we go to dinner with her and my boyfriends brother and his family is will pick fights at the dinner table with the brother. She has no manners. Long story short, she does nothing to help my boyfriend's father who is in his 60s however expects him to help her all the time. She goes to the casino nearly every weekend so my boyfriend has to take care of the house because they stay at the casino. She spend most her money at the casino. The list goes on and on.

Anyway, my boyfriend is completely miserable. He can't say too much because he has to work with this woman everyday. I have tried to encourage him to talk to his father but he refuses saying that is not appropriate for him to say something. That is not his place. He has also told me that he can not discuss hisnfeelings with his father.

What do you think can be done to help with this situations?

[hamster-bamster]

What is the r/s between the bf and the woman in question at work? Equals, one manages the other, same team, different teams - ?

[HollyC]

Originally Posted by hamster-bamster

What is the r/s between the bf and the woman in question at work? Equals, one manages the other, same team, different teams - ?

They are teachers at the same school in same department. Their classrooms are next to each other and have to work together.

[hamster-bamster]

Holly,

It is such a shame that people with no manners get to teach children.

It seems that nothing could be done to help the situation. Your bf has a valid reason not to want to talk to the woman. He also has a right to choose not to speak to his father.

If you decide to try to help the situation, though, you can encourage the bf to speak to the father, not the woman.