[carrie_ann]

i have a friend who knows a woman who lives down the road from him. i've seen pics of this woman and heard her talk to him on the fone and her attitude worries me.

last christmas she saw him walking home from the store and asked for help with christmas preparations. her being a single mom and him being a caring guy, he agreed.

before leaving he went to give her a friendly hug and a peck on the cheek but she turned her head for a full on kiss. he then went to turn away but she indicated she wanted more. i guess he's only human as he obliged.

thru speaking she admitted to having a crush on him for over a year despite a ten year or so age gap.

he admits things got "hot and heavy" a few times ... use your own imagination here folks!

anyways, since then he has tried for the past 6 weeks to break things off but she wont let things go. she calls him at all hours with a "i say jump, you say how high" attitude (i've heard the convos) and ... even tho he has been straight with her about how he feels ... she just wont let it go.

i gotta say i seen pics of the woman and she is pretty but her attitude is real ugly when she doesn't get the attention she wants. and even tho he HAS made it clear to her there can be no relationship (due to her drinking and attitude) she is having none of it. she calls him at all hours, goes nuts when she doesn't get an immediate answer and even watches to see him come and go from the store.

so is there any advice i can give my friend plz?

thanx in advance

[hamster-bamster]

I do not know why age difference matters, since based on your description he is not a minor so there is no statutory rape. Outside of statutory rape, why is her being ten years oolder even relevant?

The issue he is having has a clear and simple solution and I am puzzled why two adults, you and your friend, have been unable to come up with it on your own. Just have calls from her number go directly to VM. Eventually she will get too frustrated leaving msgs and not being called back.

[adam_k]

It sounds like she is desperate and clingy. The only thing I can think of is from him to tell her things won't work out and to stop contact. Hopefully she will give up and move on.

[carrie_ann]

hamster-bamster and adam k thank you BOTH for these answers. i have told him the same as you two and, tho it's fallen on deaf ears, he asked me to post for input from others also. so as a friend i did.

while he claims to desperately want to end things with her he adds fuel to the fire by running any time she says run, so i am having nothing more to do with the situation ... as i say, i just posted this as a friend as he asked me to.

again, thank you both for your input.

[hamster-bamster]

You are right to wash your hands