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Old Mar 04, 2013, 01:32 AM
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I made out with my best friend and now I literally want nothing to do with him... I mean we've kissed before but I was rebounding from my ex... But now he keeps texting me and he was kind of treating me like I were his girlfriend and idk why I feel this way about it... What should I do? What's my problem?
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Old Mar 04, 2013, 03:23 AM
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it sounds like you had set boundaries with this friendship and other person's boundaries were not as clear and or both of you had different ideas of what boundaries meant.

It is not easy maintaining this type of friendship unless both are committed to "blood oath" or written letter of understanding.i
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Old Mar 04, 2013, 04:58 PM
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I'm not really understanding your feelings...I understand you don't want to be a couple with him, but what is prompting you to want nothing at all to do with him? That might help me in helping you.

Anyway, if you think there was a misunderstanding in boundaries (which I believe there was...I think he may've read more into it than what it was, which were it me, I don't blame him. lol We guys are rather simple creatures at times ), the best thing to do would be to simply tell him (gently) that you don't see him as a romantic partner, and that you value his friendship and wish to remain friends. Just friends. lol Basically, friend zone him. A word of forewarning, he will likely ask you why you two kissed if that's how you feel. You'll need to be prepared with an answer to that.

Wish you both the best. Good luck!

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Old Mar 05, 2013, 04:13 PM
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What should I do? What's my problem?
You should do nothing at this point, in my opinion. Just relax, go for a walk, along those lines. Do not respond to texts - you are not on call and even if you were, there is no crisis.

Eventually you will feel better and understand your position better.
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