I don't know if I still love him.

I've been dating this guy for slightly over 2 years. Things were great at first but now it just seems like everything is exactly the same. I get annoyed at a lot of little things he does. He doesn't treat me as well as he used to and seems as though he's too comfortable with us being together, like he doesn't think I'd ever leave him. At times when we do get along and have fun together I care about him strongly but I don't know if I love him.

He is very clingy and cuddly and I want to actually go out and DO something whereas all he ever wants to do is cuddle. I like cuddling but not all the time! It just seems like we don't belong together sometimes.

I told him everything that I've noticed and he's trying to make things better but my mind won't let me be receptive. He's trying to make me smile or laugh but I just think it's stupid and get annoyed. Very often we just don't talk or I get annoyed with him. I feel like I would break up with him except I'm just so used to being with him, I don't know what it would be like without being with him. Plus, we have all the same friends and I'm scared it would ruin my friendships. I just want to know if I still love him or if I'm just used to being with him.

Thanks to anyone who tries to help!

It sounds like you two are taking each other for granted. Why don't you try to develop some interests separate from him? Are there any social groups where you live? Do you have any hobbies, or is there anything you're interested in that you could get involved in without him? You two don't have to be attached at the hip. And the same is true of him -- he should find something that interests him too.

Plus you two ought to go out with friends, instead of sitting on the couch all the time. Do it while you're young because if you ever start a family, you won't be able to do it. Now is the time to "play."

No one else can tell you if you love him or not. You have to figure that out. Maybe taking some time apart would help. Take a "vacation" from each other and see what happens. Just a thought.

I wish you the best. Hugs, Lee

What do you mean when you say he used to treat you better? I agree with Leed, find a hobby that interests you and encourage him to find another hobby besides cuddling all the time. Its good to have some separate interests so you don't lose yourself and feel suffocated. Do you have a girls night out? Anyways, I was with a guy once who was Mr. Romantic at first and after awhile he never wanted to go anywhere or do anything other than watch movies; he told me he didn't want to go out because he was broke & I finally realized he was broke because his priority was smokin pot, and that's where his money and motivation was. I was told you can't see the forest through the trees meaning, take some time for yourself, get away for the weekend or awhile; having a little distance will give you a better perspective on your situation. Best Wishes