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Old Mar 31, 2013, 01:37 AM
janefarmer janefarmer is offline
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Just a few days ago, my boyfriend and I went inside of a jewelers store. We decided to go into Kay Jewelers and no one wanted to help us. As we were on our way out a lady thought that we were married and between the ages of 21-25. Then, we went inside of another jewelers store. I was surprised that he didn't have a problem with this. The guy that was helping us pick out the engagement ring told us that the one I took interest in was $3400. My boyfriend began to discuss financial things with him and was talking about a payment plan. We didn't purchase the ring that day; however, I told him that we didn't have to. I believe that he was upset because he couldn't get it for me due to the simple fact that he had just started his new job. We went into a department store where he had his eye on a wedding ring that he would have wanted me to get him. I told him that I would have wanted to spend more time saving up even though I had the money for it. We discussed that we should take our time looking for the ring even though he thought about proposing on April 3, 2013. My only question is if he is serious about wanting to get married and if this is a good or bad sign? Is this fate? We have been talking about marriage since last year of September. Please help, I would love to hear from more than one voice. How do you know if your partner is planning on proposing?

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Old Mar 31, 2013, 02:24 AM
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I'm not sure I understand the questions. It appears that marriage is definitely on both your minds. He showed you a ring he likes didn't he? Good or bad? Good if it is what you both want.
It looks like he wants to get you something you will love. That's a good thing. It looks like he will propose, but it's hard to say when. It's not something to rush.
If a man wants to be financially in a good place, like, able to pay for a ring, that's a good thing too. Let him do that. He needs to know he can. And he needs to know that you will appreciate his being responsible. Those are two good things to have in a mate. Responsibility & Appreciation.
Enjoy this lovely, young & crazy-in-love time. It is sweet. Relax. He clearly wants to be with you. I hope it is what you want too. When it's right, things will fall into place.
This is an exciting thing, nothing to be stressed about. Let yourself enjoy this amazing time in life.

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Old Mar 31, 2013, 04:50 AM
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What is the significance of april 3? It sounds like you save your money but he does not save his. Have you discussed how you will handle finances when you are married, your financial goals, etc, joint checking accounts? It bothers me that he has his ring picked out but can't pay for yours.
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Old Apr 01, 2013, 01:42 AM
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April 3 is our two year anniversary. I had the money to get his ring because generally mens wedding rings are cheaper. I do feel that he needs to prove he is financially responsible before we go any further. I feel that if he claims to have been looking into rings for a while that he should have had some money saved up. I'm pretty sure he knows that after going to his sister's wedding that rings and weddings on average don't come cheap.
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