[sss123]

Hi.. I would like seek advice from you people regarding a issue I am facing.. I have had a break up about 7 months ago.. I blame myself to fail this relationship.. I met this guy in my college and then we started having friendship nd it got stronger and stronger.. we became best buddies nd then I started having feelings for him.. he told me about his past.. it was very painful as he was bullies by his classmates a lot and was molested by his servents nd people around him.. he never had a strong friendship before me.. then we got into a relationship nd we starting having troubles.. he was insecure of my other friends nd often gave me sarcastic comments about them.. I usually ignored that nd try to be nice to him.. then after sometime I started giving him response by not talking to him nd I tried made him feel guilty about the fact that he has made me lose my friends.. communication became really weak between us nd started spending time in silence.. this continued for 2 months nd after that he told me that it is not working nd we should be only friends.. he broke up with me.. but we still met daily nd had awkward comvos..
This continued for several months nd the communication between us almost stopped.. most of the times I would go to him nd we would talk nothing.. I tried to do everything to do tht he demanded.. I tried to be there for hin as friend since he told me he didn't want a lover but a friend.. things kept going this way nd we always talked nothing meaing ful or when talked we fought.. that is after the break up.. he stopped visiting me nd told me he don't feel like talking to me.. or anybody else. He says that everybody in this world has hurt him nd don't want any social life or anything involving people.. he doesnt have any friend to whom he can talk.. we live in subcontinent nd here being gay is a bad thing so are not open to anybody..

I am corcernd about him very much.. I don't want him to be lonely or in any kind of pain.. I blame myself for his this condition.. I want to help him nd make him happy.. I don't care if he continues to see me or not. But I want him to be happy.. he won't accept any help.. he don't even talk to me.. how can I help him ? I feel suicidal due to the fact that I destroyed his life.. please leave some comments over This...

[gayleggg]

Don't take the blame for destroying his life. He was abused in the past and can't handle close relationships. It was his choice to leave the relationship. I don't see any reason to blame yourself. He will be in pain until he chooses to get help. It's up to him. You can't make someone happy if they are not willing to help themselves. Forgive youself and move on.

[StephanieBsad]

Take advantage of those around you. Be thankful you have them.