[huntreddog]

I married a man that I love but, I just don't feel loved. He seem to want to get it but, I'm unsure if he truly does? I just want to throw my hands up and scream! Marriage is work, my needs are important to!

[beauflow]

(((huntreddog)))

relationships are difficult at times, but it is a two way street- it should not be a one way street- and that is with any one.

Your needs are just important as his.

Have you talked to him about this?

Some times my s/o is not in tune with things, and can be a little clueless that I am unhappy with something with us..
It is difficult to sit down and talk, it is *easier said than done*, for some----- but some times it clears things up, OR it gives you an answer instead of wondering.

[mitingas]

We do not know does he love you. How could we know? How long are you in marriage? Do you have children?
Talk to him sees what he thinks about your relationship. If he continue not show you his love and do not see why to keep being married to him.

[Leed]

Yes your needs ARE important. And if he's not gettiing it, then it's time that he does.

Ask him if he's willing to go to marital counseling. Tell him that your marriage is dependent on it, because your needs aren't being met, and you aren't feeling loved and needed, or appreciated. Marriage DOES take work on BOTH sides, and if he's not willing to put the work into it like you are then what's the use? He has to show as much commitment into the marriage as YOU are --- so see if he'll go to counseling.

Hopefully the counselor will teach you both how to communicate - which is something that it SOUNDS like you two aren't doing very well. You've got to be able to communicate in order to express love and needs. I wish you the very best. I hope things work out for you. God bless & please take care. Hugs, Lee

[NWgirl2013]

I agree, as usual with Leed. I have personal experience with this too. I went into my marriage with blinders on I guess, but they came off pretty quick. I insisted on couples counseling, he went once, said it was a load of crap (because the counselor didn't support his destructive-to-us behavior).
When he refused to go anymore, I went ahead & got my own counselor who was a good sounding board for my observations of what I was experiencing. It turns out,I wasn't crazy like he said at all!
Wanting to get help/get a handle on it earlier than later, is a Great Idea. Good Luck to you.