Help! Scared and Worried!

Although I just broke up with Andy, that doesn't mean I don't still care about him.

He's really fallen apart since I broke up with him. He wants to and is determined to stop taking his meds at this point and wants to go live the rest of his life in the state mental hospital. The guy's only 32! Now he's always crying, talking to himself, just doing really off things...like when he was bad before. He says that the only reason he took his meds in the first place was because of me.

I just don't know how to handle this. Somebody please help!

This would be totally not your problem. Does Andy have a T? He needs somebody to help him process the breakup, but that doesn't mean that someone should be you. He's manipulating you, IMHO. Don't fall for it.

(((((((((((((((((((Lex))))))))))))))))))))))))

Yu can't fix him hon. He has to find his own way. Brutal to watch one we love stuggle and suffer, but, he needs to find new support. Your job is to learn to take care of your self. Tuff love is tuff on everybody. You can do it. ))))))) lexi ((((((((

Actually, I have already noticed that this is some serious manipulation on his part. It angers me but at the same time is really worrying me.

Tomorrow I'm gonna let his therapist and his ICM (Intensive Case Manager) know that he is in crisis and refuses to get any help whatsoever.

Andy refuses to speak to any type of therapist because he says he doesn't trust them, but I know they're only there to help. What happens next after I tell them about his current condition is really up to him and mental health.

((((((((((((((((Lexicon)))))))))))))

This is very hard. I know because I have been there.

I agree with your course of action. Tell his T, but remain firm in not getting back together with him, since it's not what you want.

Hang in there.... you and he will get this very difficult time in life - you just need to be strong, and while you do still care for this man..... please know that this sounds like the fall apart plot, as a means to scare you into taking him back. Stand Firm and remain full of the Confidence that got you to this point..... you both need it.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

It's just emotional blackmail. He knows you care and he is using your compassion to get what he wants. That is not a very loving thing to do on his part.

always remember, you are not responsible for another person's actions. only they do what they do..... you can't "make" somebody even if they accuse you, ya know.
get out the bear grease and coat yer heart good.
))))))lexi((((((( bravery and courage are hard work. are you taking time out to meditate and breath deeply and recover yourself? give yourself treats? pats on the back?

Lex, you have done and are still doing the right thing. I know that you are very concerned about him and scared for his mental health and you seem to be doing everything you can to help him.

There is nothing much that I can say that hasn't already been said.

Stay strong - this probably won't get any easier, even when it is completely final.