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Hello,
I'm new here, first time posting on a forum like this ![]() ![]() Quote:
Btw, I don't know if I should be using the trigger icon, but just to be safe... |
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Hi psychocalipso,
6 years is a long time. I can understand your pain. You were 19 and 20 when you started dating. I changed a lot in those college years. My boyfriend at the start of college and I really grew apart. College is a big time for change. Your girlfriend has just moved out of her parents' home. That is an enormous moment in life and for me the first time I felt truly free. I had an impulse to try new things at that moment. Stuff I was not free to do in my home, and that included some sexual promiscuity for me. She is flirting with men. She is a victim of sexual abuse from a male cousin. is it possible she is questioning her sexual identity and now has the freedom to experiment without parental judgement? This is a hard conversation to have, but I think you need to initiate a serious conversation with your girlfriend. You deserve to know exactly what is going on. This flirting does not sound harmless, it ended in your slapping her! If you have never seen this behavior in 6 years, something is going on. Get yourself to a calm place and have a heart to heart |
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Hi lisamom, thank you for replying.
Ever since that other incident with that other guy a little over a year ago I've been doubtful of her sexual identity. I mean, I don't really care what she identifies as, bi or gay, as long as she's faithful to me and tells me what she wants. I've tried talking to her about it and she keeps insisting she wasn't expecting a reply from this guy. I spoke to my therapist and I feel like a total mess. She's very straightforward with me since I'm in psychology so some of the stuff she tells me is quite hard to hear. Two options she said, in simple terms, my gf is straight and is with me because I make her feel safe and I don't pressure her into having sex. Or that I'm some sort of mother figure since her actual mother is, well, I don't have very nice words to describe her. *sigh* |
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That must be hard to hear, but so much better to deal with the truth than live pretending. You deserve something real. My advice would be to make yourself come first here. If you are hurting, then you need to make a change. Relying on her to make you happy is not working. You don't trust her right now, so don't place your heart in her hands. Initiate a break and have faith that if this was meant to be, it will come back together. If it was not, then it is better for you to deal with this, heal, and free yourself to find a new mutual love than continue to live in this pain
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