[splash]

as i was driving to work yesterday, this local radio station's dj's were discussing a survey on office romance and were inviting listeners to call in with their own stories. this topic was interesting to me because, recently, a coworker in the next cubicle started seeing this man from another area of the department. now, she's been working for the company for a couple years, so the two of them are not total strangers, but she recently moved into the cubicle from another office in another city, and the two of them have been seeing one another, alone, quite often. she also stated when she moved in that she had a boyfriend and that was one of the reasons she didn't want to move closer to work (she has a long commute). she's not openly discussing the situation, but the roses on her desk tell another story...

anyways, i was wondering what others thought. i invite you to take part in this anonymous poll (and if you have a story you'd like to share, or thoughts on the subject, by all means, post away!).

[mj14]

I met my significant other, who I have been living with for over ten years now, at work. He worked in the lab next to mine, and we used to talk all the time as friends. I was in a very abusive relationship at the time, and if it wasn't for him, I might never have gotten out of it...he helped me find the women's center that assisted me, and he even drove me to the police to deal with having this guy thrown out of my apartment. After that ended, he and I started dating, and eventually moved in together. We are the best of friends and he is the best thing ever to happen to me. Shortly after we started dating, he moved to another part of the company, and has since left for another job, so we no longer work together.

Anyway, I found the best man I have ever known at work, so I can hardly speak out against intra-office dating. Actually, the place where I work has a lot of married couples, some of whom came here already married, and some who met here. All in all, it doesn't seem to cause much difficulty...of course, I know one person who did get in trouble because of an office romance, but that is because she was making out with her boyfriend in her office. So, I think the important thing is to be mature and discreet, which is valuable no matter what the circumstances are for a romance.

mj

[kitty]

Splash: I love seeing your picture! It is nice to be able to put a face to your posts.
Re: the office romance question - I have had many, many office romances, practically every place I have worked. It is only natural because that is where you spend most of your time.However, I have never dated a married man. To me, that is taboo and off limits. Also, I have never dated a supervisor or someone beneath me. That is also off limits (and stupid). I can't answer your pole because now I am married and this no longer applies, however, my husband and I work together! So, it is an office romance, it is just permanent! I love working with him. We have lunch together every day.

[Zenobia]

I don't think I could stand an office romance. The thought of seeing my guy everday at work bothers me. I like being able to go to work and have it be MY thing not OUR thing. Work is a kind of escape from the real world for me.
Zen

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The path is narrow to the right madness. Be wary of trembling in the wrong places! The demons often disguise themselves as gods. And vice versa.--Sam Keen