[DestarKnight]

I'm at a point in my life where I need to make a choice. My past relationships try to haunt me, but I'm trying to forget them. I need to decide whether I continue as I have, holding on to hope no matter how false, or walking away without looking back. I'm tired of living alone, waking up with no one there, but the more I try to finding someone like me, the more I realize that there isn't anyone. I stop and come to a stand still where life slowly bores me. I need to know if there's any reason for me to keep looking or if it's wise for me to shut it all out.

[elvinchild]

I can relate - I often feel as though I'm so unusual, I'll never find someone who gets me. I've been hung up on one serious relationship I had in the past that I was so sure would lead to marriage, I feel as though I'm still in love and will never find someone like that again.

I don't think there's ever a reason to give up looking. Maybe you could look at your list of criteria for a relationship, try to establish what you're looking for realistically. Of course we all have an ideal, perfect partner in mind, but what traits are most important to you? Honesty, shared interests, intellectual connection, similar intimate needs, etc.? What flaws can you put up with? Try to figure out the few characteristics you need most in a relationship, and what you can do without.

Then get out and meet people - several of my friends have found partners through dating sites like match, echemistry, and okcupid. I've met a lot of people through my hobbies - i.e. playing music at open mics - maybe you could take a class or join a group in line with your interests, karate, meditation.

It is tough to find someone who completely understands you, but I think a relationship with honest/open communication, basic shared values for the purpose of raising a family and shared lifestyles so you can live together is a good start. Perhaps you could try to find somebody who's differences complement you, so that you share the most important qualities but are able to learn from each other in other ways.

[Leed]

Hi DeStar ~ For heavens sakes, don't hold onto the past!!! Walk away, and forget it and move on to something/someone else!

You WILL find someone else. Don't look for someone in particular -- like someone just like YOU. Someone will show up in your life when you least expect it, and it will be HIM. You won't even be looking for anyone, probably. That's usually the way it works. LOL

But never quit looking. Of course, don't look "desperate." But you'll find that special someone -- believe me.

Keep us posted, okay? I wish you the very best. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

[DestarKnight]

I just have to point this out. I'm a guy, and Leed said "it will be HIM." Kinda hoping it won't be a him.