[Puffyprue]

do you believe in love at first sight? or is it possible to be i love with someone only after spent time together for 4 days?

[Leed]

Well, to be perfectly honest, I fell in love with my late husband the first time I saw him! And if I REALLY want to be honest, I pursued him too. LOL

We were together for quite some time, and later married. He was well worth the wait.

So is it possible? I say yes!! Good luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee

I dunno.

I'm 53 and haven't fallen in love yet!

Do I get a prize for taking the longest?

I'm not sure I believe in love anymore…

[RomanSunburn]

The exact thought I had when I first saw my (now) husband at the age of 14 was, "I could have a crush on him." Yes, like I could control who I had a crush on and that it was about time I actually had a crush. Four years later when we started dating, I believe it was within a few months (6?) that I knew I was going to marry him. I had absolutely NO doubt that I would marry him when he broke up with me.

[allimsaying]

Not hard for me to fall in love at first sight. Its keeping it going thats been the problem

[Neptune83]

Absolutely possible I'd say. My husband and I met online, I loved what I read and his pictures, from our texts I fell in love with him, before we even met up!

[hamster-bamster]

No, based on my experience, I need time.

[allimsaying]

Yes! Sometimes its love at first words! Good post! That might be better than first sight. Looks have proven to be deceiving.

Originally Posted by Neptune83

Absolutely possible I'd say. My husband and I met online, I loved what I read and his pictures, from our texts I fell in love with him, before we even met up!

[avlady]

I believe in love at first sight

[tinyrabbit]

How do you define love, though? I think there are different kinds of love. It changes over time.

When I met my husband, we just clicked. We both went: oh, there's the person I've been looking for. It was the kind of love where you feel excited and thrilled to have met, where you think the person can do no wrong.

Then there's the kind of love where you aren't just infatuated but you've got to know the person and you're really happy.

Then there's the kind of love where you're not excited by the newness and you know the person's faults, but you love them because of who they are, not because of who you think they are.

Then there's the kind of love where the going gets tough and you still want to stick around because you feel like that person is a part of you.

Then there's the kind of love where you look at the person and you know you'll happily take care of them when they're old and senile. You don't feel like that when you meet someone. Love is a process, not an on/off switch.

[DestarKnight]

I can't say that it would happen for everyone, but when it's meant to be, thongs just fall into place, even if there are problems. Is it possible? I think so. Is it guaranteed? Nothing is. I just suggest not moving too fast to be sure.

[allimsaying]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

Love is a process, not an on/off switch.

I agree with all you said.

Its taken me a lot of time to learn about being careful. Not to disagree, but for lack of a better visual, my switch is usually "on", (meaning Im open to the possibility) and it has caused me to feel some heartache and get into some situations that later I thought I should have been wiser, more careful, but when you are missing someone special, sometimes you take chances and risks and feel pain. Isnt learning to love a little like learning to fish? You go out hoping theyre biting, you choose a place where you think you'll have the most catch, you throw out your line and hope for a nibble. Sometimes you pull up moss or dead grass, sometimes you get snagged in a tree. With fishing, its simple casting your line out there again. With love, you think twice the next time. The worst thing we could do to ourselves tho, imo, is stop fishing altogether. Then we have no fish and we have no love. Im all for being cautious, but not so cautious that we dont take the chance. I think our instincts guide us to a certain extent, and it takes time and experience to grow those instincts, but even then, we cant know everything we need to know about someone, and I dont think we know what kind of love it may turn out to be, until we've spent time with them and invested ourselves some.

I don't believe in love at first sight. Or love in four days. I believe you can be attracted to someone immediately, but not in love, no.

[healingme4me]

I can't fall fast in love, anymore.

I have definitely noticed something "different" (like when the earth stopped moving for a few seconds) about someone at first glance on like 3 different occasions and was kind of blown away...I dated 2/3 of them, one long-term, one shorter term, and the other was not available but he was a good friend for a long time.
I believe you can have an instant connection with someone, but I think it takes longer for real love to develop.

[justmemaybe]

Originally Posted by Puffyprue

do you believe in love at first sight? or is it possible to be i love with someone only after spent time together for 4 days?

I think it can happen. But on the other hand it takes work to stay in love.
Its a give and take thing.

[Perna]

I like the way a pastor once expressed it, "You don't fall in love, you grow in love."

I believe you can fall in love as quickly as the both of you give yourselves permission to.
I am absolutley sure people fall in love at first sight and stay that way forever.
I know for me its usually lust at first sight and then you learn more about them later and decide if you like them or not...and vice versa.
For me love and trust are closely related and can't have one without the other.
Good luck if you have fallen, be sure the other one feels the same.
Love is a most wonderful thing!

[hannabee]

No, I don't think it's called love at that point. Physical attraction, lust, yes, not love. Love needs time to grow and you need to learn about the other person before it becomes love. And even then, after learning, you need to be sure they are acting true to themselves and not putting on a front just for you.

TBH, far too many people mistake chemistry at first sight, for love. Each person ascribes a different interpretation....

[Malachite]

There certainly is love at first sight, or even first awareness, i.e., one need not even be in the presence of the object of their love, to fall in love with them. It doesn't take four days; it doesn't even take four seconds. One may fall in love, in less than a heartbeat.

[allimsaying]

Some people are in a continuing state of love for all beings and all things. Sometimes love feels like the wrong thing to feel, like loving a serial killer, but its love that heals all wounds. I think being loving is the healthiest state of mind we can have.

[sewerrats]

Fell in love with my wife first time i saw her, didnt stop me breaking her heart a million times, other women, drinking , fighting , staying out late, ect ect. But i only ever loved my wife even though i was a bastard., it never crossed her mind to leave me she loved me warts and all. We are getting on now and still in love and i settled down some time back. KIDS grandkids all the trimmings . How can 2 people be so in love with each other yet act so different????????opposites attract i suppose .