[Laurielrocks]

I have been with my husband for twelve years. We've had our ups and downs and hurtful times. This was years ago. It has been good for a. While except now it's like he won't touch me, talk to me, be around me. Ihave no idea why. I have. Just needed to talk to him and I can't. We sleep in separate rooms and hardly communicate. Need help

[EBD8]

A little confused, but somehow, somewhere, sometime if you want to try and make this work there has to be some kind of communication between the two of you. Will it be awkward, yes, very much so. There are many ways to do this and I'm not sure what will work for you but it needs to happen and the sooner the better. Nothing destroys a relationship faster than resentment and mistrust and the longer that this goes on the longer it takes to get through it. Are either of you there for financial reasons, convience , what other family members might think, kids? etc. Only you know that. Sometimes life just gets in the way. Don't let it. If it's not worth fighting for, something has give. I hope it goes well for you.

I agree, without talking there is little you can do. You can't make someone talk, sadly.

Have you tried writing a letter? Perhaps something like that may get the ball rolling. If he refuses to talk tho, it may be better for you and your soul if you thought about going it alone. Nobody deserves to feel hurt and lost in their marriage, and I really feel for you.

Hugs.

[Laurielrocks]

Hī gula. Things for ino. I Sony kone what to so anymore. This wili eventually destroy me inside. I feel i have tried what i thing to do ane nohinohi. I have so many letters it is sad. He just does not seem to careʻ. I dont know what to do anymore.

[Laurielrocks]

I am just trying to be happy i have no idea what to do anymore. And he tells me he loves me like its nothing. Being hurt like this was not what i imaginedʻ.

[hamster-bamster]

I would tell him that you will separate from him if he does not stop distancing himself. He needs a wake up call and it should come from you...

[Laurielrocks]

I have many letters ive written, he didnt respond to anything i said. He just acts like he never got it. He refuses to discuss anything involving feelings with me. I tried therapy. He couldnt be honest there. Theres no financial reasons we both have good jobs, our friends have no idea and i am afraid to open up to one because they probly wouldnt believe me.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by Laurielrocks

Theres no financial reasons we both have good jobs, our friends have no idea and i am afraid to open up to one because they probly wouldnt believe me.

I think it is good news that you are financially independent on your own, so you can separate from him without catastrophic consequences.

I think it is also good that you found this site, because people on here would believe you and would give you the support you will need in going through the separation, since, quite clearly, your friends would NOT be able to give you the needed support.