[Heather11]

I've posted a couple times about dating... I am so disappointed because I met someone a few weeks ago who is a total package and it didn't work out... It seemed like we were going to move forward and then he flipped gears on our last date at the end. I don't think details are that important- we just got our signals crossed when it seemed like all was going great. He left on an awkward note. I hate that it ended on that note when everything was going so well. We were talking about how much we liked each other and how we each have qualities we are looking for... I can't recall being so attracted to someone like this. It was just everything about him!
Now I obviously feel rejected since he hasn't reached out to me. I reached out once to feel it out and to me if he's not making an effort then there's my answer...

Now I've got the usual guys trying to score casually with me and I am so far beyond the casual phase.. (Seriously who are these people hooking up via text message!) I try to stay positive thinking I'll find the right one for me but it's so few and far between that I even meet a total package like this last one. Someone I can see myself really being with in life. It was instant with him. Now I feel like I will be comparing anyone new to the last one. Don't judge simply because it was so brief. It's really hard to meet decent men with good intentions and he seemed to have them. I got hopeful for the future.

I'd really like to hear a man's opinion on what switches off in your head

[sammie2277]

Originally Posted by Heather11

I've posted a couple times about dating... I am so disappointed because I met someone a few weeks ago who is a total package and it didn't work out... It seemed like we were going to move forward and then he flipped gears on our last date at the end. I don't think details are that important- we just got our signals crossed when it seemed like all was going great. He left on an awkward note. I hate that it ended on that note when everything was going so well. We were talking about how much we liked each other and how we each have qualities we are looking for... I can't recall being so attracted to someone like this. It was just everything about him!
Now I obviously feel rejected since he hasn't reached out to me. I reached out once to feel it out and to me if he's not making an effort then there's my answer...

Now I've got the usual guys trying to score casually with me and I am so far beyond the casual phase.. (Seriously who are these people hooking up via text message!) I try to stay positive thinking I'll find the right one for me but it's so few and far between that I even meet a total package like this last one. Someone I can see myself really being with in life. It was instant with him. Now I feel like I will be comparing anyone new to the last one. Don't judge simply because it was so brief. It's really hard to meet decent men with good intentions and he seemed to have them. I got hopeful for the future.

I'd really like to hear a man's opinion on what switches off in your head

Hello Heather

You were right when you posted on my question, we are kind of in the same boat. I am trying to figure out pretty much the same thing about the opposite sex. I am the wrong one to give you advice on this though. I generally feel something switches off in women at some point. I kind of realized for some reason I keep attracting people with issues of their own.

My last three relationships were with the one dealing with the divorce, the one before seemed normal but we just were not a good match after a couple of months, and the two before that had really bad abandonement issues because of their fathers. I know I am nor perfect and in the case of the two with father issues I made comments that did not help but would never have set someone off the way they did. In the case of the last one she was just like yours in that everything seemed great and then two days later needed out for some reason.

I do not think in either case there is much you or I could have done differently, though I am not sure the specifics in your case. In mine I will say the last tome I saw her was the most romantic night and probably best date of my life. Then two days later she texted me it was over.

Hey if you just need to talk I am here but I do not think this is strictly a male trait:-)

[Heather11]

I always say that everyone has issues and and anyone that says they don't are the ones to avoid. I'm trying not to overanalyze why it turned out the way it did. If I had only done this, or only said that... It just is what it is and some things just don't get explained. I'll wonder with this one though what could have been... Ugghh make it stop LOL