[LadyShadow]

Hello everyone,

About four months ago, me and my boyfriend broke up. I just have this overwhelming feeling of being alone.

Just wanted to know if anyone else has had a recent breakup or know someone who has and can help with advice and how to cope with the lonliness..

I feel so lost.

I miss him.

I miss having someone

Sorry you're feeling blue still.. I've not split up from someone for a while now, but whenever I did, I used to allow myself a week or two at most to lick my wounds, feel utterly miserable and then make myself get out and get busy. See friends or whatever, just nice things. Distraction always helped me, I'd start to have fun which always is good, and before I knew it, the sadness had faded a lot.

All I can suggest is to get yourself back out and busy. Do anything to make yourself smile, even if just a little bit. See friends, go shopping and spoil yourself to something really nice. Have a long soak in the tub with a good book. Anything really that you can think of that always used to make you smile before you met him. Please remember too that you didn't feel so alone before you met him, and in time you won't feel alone anymore - it's a period of adjustment. Above all this, be kind to yourself.

Hugs

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by riotgrrrl

Sorry you're feeling blue still.. I've not split up from someone for a while now, but whenever I did, I used to allow myself a week or two at most to lick my wounds, feel utterly miserable and then make myself get out and get busy. See friends or whatever, just nice things. Distraction always helped me, I'd start to have fun which always is good, and before I knew it, the sadness had faded a lot.

All I can suggest is to get yourself back out and busy. Do anything to make yourself smile, even if just a little bit. See friends, go shopping and spoil yourself to something really nice. Have a long soak in the tub with a good book. Anything really that you can think of that always used to make you smile before you met him. Please remember too that you didn't feel so alone before you met him, and in time you won't feel alone anymore - it's a period of adjustment. Above all this, be kind to yourself.

Hugs

Hugs! Thanks for responding, it really lifted my spirits. I have a trip planned to Colorado to see friends that I was going to cancel because I had anxiety about traveling. Now I am so happy that I'm going!

Thank you so much for your kind words. It is just a blue period, you're right. I hope it lifts soon.

So thankful right now for PC.

Best thing you can do is keep yourself busy with friends, activities, family, and maybe even work.
My wife and I separated last August and it's been very lonely for me.
I have had lots of issues in my own life to work on, and it would have been easier with someone by my side...but I did it anyway because of my daughter.

Good luck and never give up hope...the right match for you IS out there, and you gotta be out there to be found!

Colorado! Sounds just what the doctor ordered! Make sure you have a wonderful time, and when you catch yourself thinking about him, push him right out of your head again. I hope its nice and warm and you have a blast with your friends - you deserve it!

More hugs!!

:-)

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by SpiritOfAStorm

Best thing you can do is keep yourself busy with friends, activities, family, and maybe even work.
My wife and I separated last August and it's been very lonely for me.
I have had lots of issues in my own life to work on, and it would have been easier with someone by my side...but I did it anyway because of my daughter.

Good luck and never give up hope...the right match for you IS out there, and you gotta be out there to be found!

So true! I have been trying my best to keep busy, doing little things for myself here and there. I went today to get a pedicure and have lunch so that was good!

I find it hard to put myself out there though. I don't feel attractive and I have very low self-esteem. Its one of the reasons my boyfriend broke up with me. He said it was hard loving someone that was so down on themselves.

I don't know, I have a lot to work on myself.

But thanks for replying! PC is such a helpful place.

[Heather11]

I went through a break up earlier this year. I was a wreck for a month, maybe longer. The lonliness is awful. I think it is a bit important to let yourself grieve and then MOVE ON. My therapist has told me not to hide my anger and hurt but get it out by writing what you want to say in your mind but then tearing it up.
Think about all the positive possibilities for your future. Stay busy with friends, get your feelings out, do something that makes you smile and happy! I used to think affirmations were silly but it really does help to reset your mind.(I'm having to do that now myself) It's better to tell yourself positive things that you will eventually believe than dwell in negative.
Stay strong.

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by riotgrrrl

Colorado! Sounds just what the doctor ordered! Make sure you have a wonderful time, and when you catch yourself thinking about him, push him right out of your head again. I hope its nice and warm and you have a blast with your friends - you deserve it!

More hugs!!

:-)

It sure is!! Thanks for your kindness! I'm sure I will have a wonderful time. Thanks again for all your support and kind thoughts

[LadyShadow]

Originally Posted by Heather11

I went through a break up earlier this year. I was a wreck for a month, maybe longer. The lonliness is awful. I think it is a bit important to let yourself grieve and then MOVE ON. My therapist has told me not to hide my anger and hurt but get it out by writing what you want to say in your mind but then tearing it up.
Think about all the positive possibilities for your future. Stay busy with friends, get your feelings out, do something that makes you smile and happy! I used to think affirmations were silly but it really does help to reset your mind.(I'm having to do that now myself) It's better to tell yourself positive things that you will eventually believe than dwell in negative.
Stay strong.

Thanks so much for replying! What kind of affirmations are you talking about? I have heard about them, but I never knew what they were.