Can work ruin relationships?

That is exciting!! I hope you have lots of fun and you both get to relax! And maybe when you get back from your vacation, you can get into a routine of spending more time together each week. Enjoy!

I know this is going to sound weird, but...

... there is research on the connection between hand and brain. I do not have links and it is too late to search the web now, so just posting as anecdotal evidence.

So per this research, if you jot things down on paper and cross them out on paper, you invoke the hand-brain connection.

If you use software of any kind, you do not invoke the hand-brain connection.

I use this approach and it has been helping me. I do not know whether it has been helping the way placebo helps (since I believe that the approach would work for me, so my experiment is colored by my belief).

So in addition to using software, I write things down and cross them out as I complete tasks.

I have been using it on my current job. In the past, I did not use it.

I believe that it helps in that it sort of clears my head, so to speak. I get instant gratification from crossing things out. And it sort of flushes my memory so I am not accumulating stuff in my head.

I deal with what is called a "ticket queue" and the tickets have 6 digit numbers. So I noticed that those tickets that are "escalations" (So I revisit them many times a day) stick in my memory - nonsensical strings of 6-digit numbers stick in my memory. I think this is because I write them down by hand. I might be wrong but I believe that if I were to stop writing them down by hand, and instead just use the computer, I would not remember them so well.

To your partner's trouble - maybe if she tries using pen-and-paper in addition to software (I am sure accountants have lots of software to help them), she can flush her memory better, as well, and be more available to you when you do spend time together.

I know this is going to sound weird, but...

... there is research on the connection between hand and brain. I do not have links and it is too late to search the web now, so just posting as anecdotal evidence.

So per this research, if you jot things down on paper and cross them out on paper, you invoke the hand-brain connection.

If you use software of any kind, you do not invoke the hand-brain connection.

I use this approach and it has been helping me. I do not know whether it has been helping the way placebo helps (since I believe that the approach would work for me, so my experiment is colored by my belief).

So in addition to using software, I write things down and cross them out as I complete tasks.

I have been using it on my current job. In the past, I did not use it.

I believe that it helps in that it sort of clears my head, so to speak. I get instant gratification from crossing things out. And it sort of flushes my memory so I am not accumulating stuff in my head.

I deal with what is called a "ticket queue" and the tickets have 6 digit numbers. So I noticed that those tickets that are "escalations" (So I revisit them many times a day) stick in my memory - nonsensical strings of 6-digit numbers stick in my memory. I think this is because I write them down by hand. I might be wrong but I believe that if I were to stop writing them down by hand, and instead just use the computer, I would not remember them so well.

To your partner's trouble - maybe if she tries using pen-and-paper in addition to software (I am sure accountants have lots of software to help them), she can flush her memory better, as well, and be more available to you when you do spend time together.