[aria83]

I am in a difficult and stressful situation at work. I hooked up with someone i work with about 2 weeks ago. I told him not to flirt with me at work anymore and that I just want to be friends. But he keeps flirting with me anyway, and saying things that are like, sexual harassment-ish things. The worst part is, I flirted back. Even though thats not what I want. Reading this, I feel like a jerk. But I was clear with him. Multiple times. Why do I flirt back? I think it's because I'm scared of him ignoring me. Wow, I feel like I have issues, seeing that from an outsiders point of view. I also feel weak, because I LIKE what he says to me. But I don't want this to continue. I just want to be left alone. Advice would be much appreciated. This is my job. I don't know what to do. Btw, I talked to my boss and she's not going to do anything because she thinks I feel ambivalent about it.

[healingme4me]

Maybe, in time, when the dust settles, the hookup was rather recent, things will simmer down?

Things can get complicated when one dates a co-worker. Know from experience, albeit he and I worked at different locations.

Based on your behavior it does NOT sound like you want this guy to leave you alone. Of course, he is going to continue coming on to you as you flirt back. You are not a victim of the situation or of your flirting.

I think you need to get honest with yourself and decide what you want. You can't have it both ways. It is not fair to the guy for one thing. He does not believe a word you say given your flirting.