Is it wrong for your partner to slap you?

I don't really want to get into details. Do you think this is wrong though? It seems like a simple question but I feel confused.

Simple answer: yes. Why would you think it's okay?

I don't. I'm just not sure. It's hard to explain. My partner slapped me for something and it was out of nowhere.

Slap = abuse, There is never justification for it

I concur with Christina and Hankster and want to point out what exactly the abuser did (it seems). It is more than physical abuse.

So she slapped you and you, instead of feeling insulted, wonder as to the depths of her psyche. Because it was out of nowhere, you are puzzled, you doubt your own judgment, and you need the wisdom of anonymous crowds on the internet to answer a very simple, straightforward question. I have seen you around and your judgment has always been good, and then this query is REALLY out of nowhere.

So I would examine what else has been going on and how you have arrived at this station in your life when you all of a sudden lose all your otherwise good judgment and start asking such questions. To me (and I was a victim of non-physical abuse) it sounds as if your partner, somehow and I do not know how, managed to completely erode your confidence and your ability to think for yourself and call a spade a spade. Seems like some deep-seated emotional abuse. As if she managed to make you blind.

Sorry, it is a very stupid question. I suppose I already knew the answer. I just wanted to somehow be proven wrong. I don't what I wanted. I feel confused.

you wanted to believe in a fantasy but are instead faced with the grim reality.

Feeling confused, yes! Of course, this is supposed to be a loving relationship that you are in.

No need to apologize here!! No question is 'stupid', either. That's symbolic of self-depreciation. And saying you are sorry, for asking, symbolizes feeling sorry for yourself, deep down.

Of course, you must feel awful!! I am so sorry to read this has happened to you

Thanks <3

Well, let's not go that far. If someone, regardless of gender, is trying to stab or shoot you, I'm certainly not going to hold it against you if you try to defend yourself.

Under the vast majority of circumstances, however, slapping is wrong.

I understand your confusion. I was having the same problem trying to figure out what happened, if it was wrong, when my friend who I broke up with, but his hand around my throat and squeezed. [Posted about it above]
I think the slapping incident is wrong. It's a definitively aggressive, hostile and fast motion.
It has been suggested to me, that in my situation, perhaps my friend was experimenting with some kind of 'erotica' game that I'm not privvy to because he wasn't angry or mean when he cut off my air.
But I def think the slap is out of order. [Not that I'm ok with the choke. It was super bizarre.]

Did he slap you across the face? You say he slapped you for "something", what exactly? My husband slapped my arm hard when I was teaching him to make pancakes and it shocked me, my brain went into KILL! mode but I had enough presence of mind to ask him "Why?" and it turned out I had been stupid and had endangered the two of us and he was just stopping that. Did you ask "Why?" and see if there was some answer that made sense (if it was not a slap across the face; slapping someone in the face is never right).

She me slapped because she found self made cuts on my arm again. She knew I did it before but she didn't know I had done it again.

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Hon, it's not a stupid question. And it's not unusual to be confused. Echoing what others said slapping = abuse.

No, she should not have slapped you, that's abuse/boundary crossing. It's your life and you are living it the best you are able and it is not her problem if you are cutting yourself; she should be supportive and as helpful as she can be and slapping you is not helpful.

I am curious if there are ever situations when it's okay to slap someone. When I was younger (teen years), I called my mother a very nasty name (a name that goes well beyond ******). She slapped me, open hand, right across the face. Honestly, given the name I called her, I think I certainly deserved it and don't feel that it was abuse. I also don't think I'm justifying her behaviour out of some kind of lack of self-esteem...I was pretty rotten to her at the time in general and was more then her equal in terms of physical strength.

If that's the case, then slapping you is probably the exact opposite thing she should have done. You've hurt yourself enough you didn't need her doing it as well.

I'm sorry It was still wrong no matter what.

Yes, it is wrong. Abuse does not equal love.