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Hello there, I live in MN and i fell in love with a wonderfull man, who had moved here from NY. He compleated me, made me laugh and feel overall happy with myself. He enjoyed doing all my favorite activity with me, like fishing and playing video games.We have been living together for a year, and we both loved it! But... (there always seems to be a "but...") He lost his job back in January when the company lost a big contract. He has been actively searching for a job, however most places here have a requirement of a drivers license, and due to his epilepsy he can not get one. So his search has come up with nothing. and his unemployment just ran out..
Well a few nights ago on the 25th he snapped under the stress and came to the decision to move back to NY and live with his family, and break up. It broke me and i cried for 2 days, and he did aswell. I have decided to support him and help him with what he needs help with. I am happy that he is excited to be going back. All i want is for him to be happy. But all it does is hurt me. I told him that i dont want him to go, but i stopped telling him how i feel because i still want to be his friend after he leaves. Im not really sure what i should do... I have decided to move back in with my family aswell because with out him i cant afford the apartment. and i dont think i can stand to come back to the apartment empty, knowing that he was once here. |
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Why not long distance the relationship for six months so he can get on his feet and you can save up to move to NY?
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#3
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I thought about it, but i don't thing i would be very happy in NY, all my family is here and im plaining to go to college here aswell. As for the long distance he does not like those kind of relationships.
We are plaining on staying friends and chatting on skype and playing video games together. |
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I am sorry!
But true, in NY it would be easier to find a job without a driver's license. Many people on Manhattan do not even bother to get one, while being healthy. I hope you will have some consolation via skype and gaming. |
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I'm so sorry Leah.
![]() ![]() I know this hurt you. I hope the two of you can remain good friends thru Skype, and perhaps hook up again someday. Who knows -- stranger things have happened! ![]() I wish you ALL the best Leah! God bless you and please take care. Hugs, Lee ![]()
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The truth shall set you free but first it will make you miserable..........................................Garfield |
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I'm sorry for what happened
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I think that it may be a good thing for a future relationship - you can both take some time to get your lives together, become more financially stable, and perhaps come together in a more healthy place. It might also be that time apart will cause emotional distance - in that case, perhaps it wasn't meant to be.
While we were sorting out our lives, my husband (then boyfriend) and I spent six months apart after we'd been together for a few years. It was necessary and got us to a point where we could support ourselves. The separation didn't diminish our affection at all. If this love is right, it will survive this and you should both focus on getting to a place where you can support yourselves and are happy. If you both then feel the same, you can work it out. |
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