Okay so I'm in this religious club at my college right. Well the sponsor, me, and a few other students help run the club, overall it's a good club except that the students and sponsor are all stuck up, arrogant, and rude. I'm constantly getting yelled at for no reason and it makes me feel like they don't like me because they think they are better than me. For example, one day we all went out to eat to have a club meeting just for the leaders of the club to talk about things, the sponsor said that she would pay for drinks but we can get anything we want as long as we paid ourselves. I got a pepsi and a sandwich, total cost was five dollars. When she saw that, she came up to me and said, you're not getting that are you? I was like, yeah, I have money for it, no worries. When she saw that I got it and was about to pay, she flipped, took my wallet out of my hand, and said that she would pay for it. I wound up not paying at all, still don't know what happened there or why she did that. She also tends to snap at me over small stuff like why I have to ask someone to repeat what they said since I'm hearing impaired. And another time her and another student told me to stop posting funny links on Facebook since that is not leader like, along with several other things. The sponsor is leaving but may return for visits, but the club is still going to be student run, and I do not want to stay in the club with stuck up people. Just hate it when people always gang up on me but never on others or yell at others for doing something they think it's wrong or don't yell at others for trivial things.

[RoseBee]

Point out the behavior and tell them you feel bullied. Ask them why they feel like they have to bully you.

Originally Posted by RoseBee

Point out the behavior and tell them you feel bullied. Ask them why they feel like they have to bully you.

Will do.

[unaluna]

You're hearing impaired? I've been following your posts for a while now, this is the first I've seen you mention it. I have a little experience in this, some family, a few friends (ie workmates). I would say about the restaurant incident, that the leader thought you were spending so little on your food, that she would buy it. She didnt expect you to be so frugal and she may have been a little embarrassed by it, but it was nothing bad about you.

As for the funny posts, that is probably a common management training type request, to teach you what their standards are. If you want to be a leader in this group, yes you have to follow their rules.

As for repeating stuff - kids do mumble these days! My last couple of years at work were very unpleasant partly because I could not keep up with how fast and low the under-30 crowd spoke. But as an oldster I could also tell when they lacked confidence in what they were saying - that's when they mumbled the most. Dont let them get away with this clearly discriminatory behavior. Good luck and keep posting.

I would be up and out of there - it sounds like they don't value your input and you owe it to yourself to find a more meaningful use of your time. You're clearly unhappy yet it sounds like this is a group you particularly want to stay in - could you start a group of your own along similar lines? Are there other religious groups you could start getting involved in just in case the situation with this one worsens and you want something to fall back on? I had a similar situation volunteering not long ago, i loved what i did but the people were the worst. In the end i decided it was kinder to myself to just let it go and find other ways of being helpful and making a difference. I hope whatever you decide to do works out for the best.

Originally Posted by Spockette

I would be up and out of there - it sounds like they don't value your input and you owe it to yourself to find a more meaningful use of your time. You're clearly unhappy yet it sounds like this is a group you particularly want to stay in - could you start a group of your own along similar lines? Are there other religious groups you could start getting involved in just in case the situation with this one worsens and you want something to fall back on? I had a similar situation volunteering not long ago, i loved what i did but the people were the worst. In the end i decided it was kinder to myself to just let it go and find other ways of being helpful and making a difference. I hope whatever you decide to do works out for the best.

Yeah, I actually may not return to the group this year especially since the sponsor is leaving and will be student run, and the students are worse and are more stuck up than the sponsor. No there are no other religious groups but I don't mind, I just stayed so I have something to do but I can find other things.

Originally Posted by hankster

You're hearing impaired? I've been following your posts for a while now, this is the first I've seen you mention it. I have a little experience in this, some family, a few friends (ie workmates). I would say about the restaurant incident, that the leader thought you were spending so little on your food, that she would buy it. She didnt expect you to be so frugal and she may have been a little embarrassed by it, but it was nothing bad about you.

As for the funny posts, that is probably a common management training type request, to teach you what their standards are. If you want to be a leader in this group, yes you have to follow their rules.

As for repeating stuff - kids do mumble these days! My last couple of years at work were very unpleasant partly because I could not keep up with how fast and low the under-30 crowd spoke. But as an oldster I could also tell when they lacked confidence in what they were saying - that's when they mumbled the most. Dont let them get away with this clearly discriminatory behavior. Good luck and keep posting.

Thank you, I'm pretty sure I mentioned my hearing impairment in another post but maybe I didn't lol. And yeah, my lunch at the fast food restaurant was a total of 5 dollars, drink was about a dollar and the sandwich was four dollars, it wasn't that expensive compared to other places. Not sure if she was embarrassed but even if she was, I still don't think she needed to act the way she did, and yeah, if I do remain in the club, I will no longer let them get away with their behavior.