Why didn't people like me in the past? sure i made fun of people. Who hasn't? So why was i being treated like the odd man out? why isn't equality emphasized? not cool.

Other kids could get away with it while I got suspended for a few words and for some pranks i played on others. Yeah, people did the same to me and my teachers could care less.

[D157R4C73D]

We're apes, and you apparently smell funny to the rest of your pack.

Sorry, I'm a bit cynical at the moment.

[gayleggg]

I can't answer why people don't like you. Sometime I think just because we are a little different we don't fit in. I'm not sure what makes people cruel but we run into many as we go through life. Never could figure that out. I saw it when I was in school and when I worked in a school. There always seemed like there were some kids that just didn't fit in. I found it very sad. I'm not sure living in the adult world is any different as I have seen it at work. I usually stay away from people as much as possible as I don't trust very well. I know I didn't answer your question but just wanted to say you are okay. so hang in there.
Gayle

[D157R4C73D]

Originally Posted by gayleggg

I can't answer why people don't like you. Sometime I think just because we are a little different we don't fit in. I'm not sure what makes people cruel but we run into many as we go through life. Never could figure that out. I saw it when I was in school and when I worked in a school. There always seemed like there were some kids that just didn't fit in. I found it very sad. I'm not sure living in the adult world is any different as I have seen it at work. I usually stay away from people as much as possible as I don't trust very well. I know I didn't answer your question but just wanted to say you are okay. so hang in there.
Gayle

I find that the more you keep to yourself the worse that it gets. Also, if you're keeping to yourself to draw less attention that also backfires as well.

[mojo321]

Originally Posted by heyitsme7

Why didn't people like me in the past? sure i made fun of people. Who hasn't? So why was i being treated like the odd man out? why isn't equality emphasized? not cool.

Other kids could get away with it while I got suspended for a few words and for some pranks i played on others. Yeah, people did the same to me and my teachers could care less.

We're apes, and you apparently smell funny to the rest of your pack.

Sorry, I'm a bit cynical at the moment.

Yikes. Social skills and the old "give and take" are things that are very difficult to get a grasp on.

The more I have been reflecting on it all, the more I am thinking it is a random, luck of the draw, initial thing that happened and then spirals out of control.

For example. Say you were playing basketball at recess. You miss a shot and someone says, "Oh you blew it!". You hang your head. Then something during class happens and someone says "kinda like when Heyitsme blew it!" and 10 people laugh. The next day someone says "don't blow it this time". Pretty soon, you're name becomes synonomous with "blowing it".

This then starts to sink into your head. Your self esteem changes. People at school see that too. They begin to believe that they are better than you. You begin to believe it, too. In the end, nobody even really remembers how they decided that you were beneath them. They just think you are.

BUT NONE OF THAT IS TRUE. The simple fact is, you missed a shot at recess one day. So what?

People love "reasons" to believe they are better than others. Competition is ridiculous these days.

Kids like to attack vulnerability. So some kids get quiet and stay under the radar. Some kids do all of the attacking. And some kids get attacked the most. And when they do, even the quiet under the radar kids come out to join in the fun, because it keeps them from being on the bottom.

This is the nature of kids! The sad part is, if you play that game and get stuck at the bottom, the spiral never seems to let you up.

So here is my ultimate solution. Be nice to the lowest kid on the totem pole. Seek out the biggest outcast you can find and be his friend. He needs a friend worse than you do. And then together, you'll find another friend. And another and another. And make a point to never hurt each other, or make fun of something that they are sensitive about. And make a point to defend someone that is being picked on. Love and kindness can overcome Alpha male crap. As long as you still have a captive audience like in school.

In adult life, it is harder, because the interactions are less frequent.

All of this is in my opinion. But I have issues too, so, yeah.

[A Red Panda]

I'm speaking as a teacher here:
As a teacher, it is IMPOSSIBLE for me to hear and know everything that goes on between my students. I catch what I can and I deal with it immediately. Sometimes they tell me what's going on and I deal with it right away. I spend time trying to teach my students empathy and coping mechs - but they're kids (9 years old) so it's a process. Sometimes when it's the same student doing the same thing over and over that I've asked them not to do? And have taken various approaches to try and curb the behaviour? Sometimes you do just lose some of the patience that you might still be able to show to others... because it wears you down and we have so little time and energy that we can't keep readressing the same thing a million times a day.

Have you ever tried sitting down and talking with one of your teachers about what goes on? At a time when they AREN'T super busy and in the middle of things? If you haven't... try asking one if you could have time to talk to them 1:1.

Then again... sometimes we're a bit blind to the severity of our own actions. I've definitely talked and talked and talked people's ears off and actually thought I was being pretty quiet cause I was TRYING really hard to not talk. Is there any chance that maybe your actions and words have been a bit more severe in the eyes of your teachers?

It really sucks that your peers are like that with you though. Are they otherwise people who act as your friends? Were the pranks you played ones on your friends? If they are.. then maybe try saying that you want to be done with the pranks and cruel words because you're tired of getting into trouble for it?

[christine65]

maybe some of your pranks were just never forgiven or forgotten by many...who knows...maybe you speak the true and people do not like to hear the truth...whatever it is find new friends...if your true to yourself and to others then dont worry about the old go find some new friends.