Despairing of ever being in a relationship again

I just turned 35, and am now officially middle-aged, so I think this is why I am having thoughts about my potential future. And it is looking a little grim.

For all my 35 years, I have been in one short and dysfunctional relationship. The problem is I really want another one right now and I am despairing of ever getting there.

There are a few stumbling blocks.

1. Low sex drive due to non-psych medications I was on last year. I am thinking of seeing the doctor about this, but I haven't had an opportunity just yet.

2. No job. In fact I have never really had a job, it's always been temporary work, or I've been self-employed. I didn't make any money in the self-employed stuff.

3. Social anxiety disorder. I would describe it as severe/chronic. I am going to start some major therapy soon, and it will be very intensive, so I think I may be able to sort some of this out in there.

4. Depression. I often don't feel like I want to do anything. I don't get out. I don't have hobbies. I have very few clothes.

So basically I am after a woman who doesn't mind that I might never become gainfully employed, and that I am socially inhibited and don't really want to have sex that much.

It's depressing because I feel otherwise normal. I'm an average looking person of average intelligence. I just have a few massive problems that have completely isolated me .

Basically just want to be like 'everyone else'. So to speak.

Thoughts?

I just turned 50, so does that make me old? hehe

the question would be what are you hoping to get out of a relationship? are you hoping it will make you a happier person? to have a healthy relationship, you have to go into it healthy with a healthy partner, otherwise you are just going to have more dysfunction and life will be more challenging and miserable. and who wants that?

I don't think things like a job and clothes are barriers to a good relationship. lots of people can look past that. even a low sex drive can be worked thru. but social anxiety and depression can put strain on a relationship.

Take time to work on you and get yourself in a really good place independently. Find your happiness and the relationship will follow.

My thoughts are that most people aren't looking for someone who is just like everyone else....