[seeker1950]

In my neighborhood. A man has been walking his little dog, and we've talked each time I'm out and he passes by. He's older than me, and the first time we spoke, I had a bunch of cardboard out by the trash can and he asked if I recycled it. I said I didn't know where to do that, and later he came by and picked it up. We've talked a couple other times since then, and then today we talked for quite a while. He even remembered to ask about my art! He walks his little dog that is a rescue.
Today I learned that he was in the Air Force, that he has two sisters who are retired in FL.
I have to honestly admit I'm cozy in my solitude, not really interested in romance at all, but it might be nice to have a male friend for outings. Each time I've spoken to him, I've been disheveled and at my worst, yet this man seems just to be nice and friendly. It might be nice to be around a man who isn't "sizing me up" like the internet dates I had in the past!
What do y'all think?

[gayleggg]

Well, it's always nice to be friends with your neighbors. Maybe more could develope. I would just take it a little at a time.
Gayle

[ocdwifeofsociopath]

you're body language will tell all! you can be friendly, as a friend, you can be friendly, as a flirt, you can be friendly, as merely not being rude when you'd rather....you can always continue you're talks and wait for him to make the first invitation beyond them. That first personal conversation about your relationship status can be a casually put announcement on how it is and where you want it to be without being abrupt, blunt, or awkward. if you like being single..."i'm single haha. I like it, it's nice to have time to myself...or whatever", if you'd like to date him, "i'm single (cute smile), I can't seem to find any good guys. (light hinting manner). whatever you do, don't be overbearing in whatever manner you're trying to get across. Natural, relaxed, comfortable behavior. and I would definitely let the conversations continue as they are until you have decided what you want.

[hamster-bamster]

Originally Posted by seeker1950

He even remembered to ask about my art! He walks his little dog that is a rescue.

it might be nice to have a male friend for outings. Each time I've spoken to him, I've been disheveled and at my worst, yet this man seems just to be nice and friendly.

What do y'all think?

I think it is wonderful, for the following reasons:

1) he liked you disheveled and at your worst - remember what Marilyn Monroe said about people who do not deserve us at our best if they cannot like us at our worst? Also, it is just nice that he sees through your being disheveled and into your essence and core.

2) Having a rescue dog would be a big plus in my book (as opposed to belonging to a canine club, raising an expensive puppy, etc.). I prefer people who have rescues.

3) he remembered about the art.

AND he picked up your cardboard and recycled it for you! That's sweet and manly all at the same time!

Anyway, I know what you mean about being "cozy in your solitude"...and then all it takes is one connection with the opposite sex to realize at least spending time with "one of them" for a bit might be nice. (I have been in that exact same spot.)

You could perhaps just start by walking his little dog with him one day. (I love guys with dogs, but then I want one so badly right now but can't for several reasons.) Obviously he cares enough about animals to have his own, but then he ALSO cares enough to take the dog on proper walks, which a lot of people don't do.

So I think it's nice you have been talking with him, and I am glad you feel positive about it. Just take it slowly, and even if he only turns out to be just a friend, it sounds like he might be a very kind and compassionate friend to have.

Hugs to you and do keep us updated!