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Old Jul 18, 2013, 06:14 PM
Anonymous32433
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Giving in to peer pressure was the worst thing anyone can do. I feel like I had to be friends with someone, like my rivals in middle school. I tried to be their friend by following their tasks and everything and everytime i failed, they were like nope you did not meet the requirements and therefore are not qualified to be my friend. Now that I think about it, these guys are just playing head games with me. I'm just like,"Why was I so stupid to even seek their company? Really?" I tried to be their friend but never got it and I was only doing so because I was afraid of what others might say, like ooh he's a loner and stuff like that. I'm just like well you don't need to feel that way dude because you are unique and you don't need a big group to feel like you have friends.
friends may be few, but at least they're the kind you will cherish in the future.
I am proud of sticking up for myself. I didn't feel like I was a loner until i started to realize that I was alone. Even in high school, my sophomore year, I was telling myself all these negative things like i'm so lonely and I was also desperate for a friendship that was beyond repair. I don't think that the friendship would have lasted anyway. I was also attracted to this one guy whom i watned to be friends with but obviously now i don't have any more feelings for him which is great. I'm glad I don't have to do that again. I'm glad that I dont have to beg him for forgiveness. I'm glad that no matter how i had tried to be led away i was still being upheld.
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Old Jul 19, 2013, 11:35 AM
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If you don't mind me asking, how old are you?

Your situation sounds similar to mine. Sometimes, it isn't you. It's them. If that's true, then make friends with someone else.

You remind me a lot of myself in highschool, too. I was too cool for the nerds (in my own egotistical opinion at the time), and too nerdy for the cools (evidenced because they wouldn't let me in the group).

As a grown up, I am experiencing this again after a 20 year break! Weird. The only thing I have been able to figure out is, some people just aren't nice. If they truly are pushing you out because of your performance, or what you can give them, then they aren't really your friends. And they really don't want to be your friend. Why do you focus on them?

I think I mentioned it before, and I am going to try and take my own advice:

Make friends with someone that needs a friend more than you do. Who else gets picked on? Who else is not included in those peoples cool group? Find them, and there you will find your friends.

If that is beneath you, then you are no better than the group that is excluding you. Hard truth. Hard for me to listen to, too.
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