Undecided on what to do

I have been married for 27 yrs I have a son age 14. My husand and I haven't truly gotten along, as in doing anything together, or wanting to. I am become involved recently with my cousin and we'd like to separate from our married partners and get together. I know this sounds so strange, but we have so much in common and have a great time together. My husband just sits around every given moment he can and either sleeps or watches tv. Even on chore day he sits and does not help. The more I do the more that is expected of me, the less I do no one cares except me. My husband isn't a bad guy, its jsut after all these years we've sort of grown apart. The length of years makes is hard to leave, and my this isn't doing my son any good either. It only shows him no affection in a relationship. I sound confused, but I just don't know how to leave my husband after all this time. How do I leave a good man, even if its to be alone?

Since you are undecided, what about going to a marriage counselor and seeing what options you might want to look at? I don't know the complete story of 27 years but that's a long time and something must have kept you together. You say he's not a bad guy. But only you can decide on what to do with the rest of your life. I think a good counselor or couples counseling can help you a lot. I've seen it help others decide what to do. Best wishes to you. CQ

PS. Welcome to the forums and hope you'll keep posting and reading. Lot of good folks here who care to "listen."
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<font color=blue>"All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another." Anatole France</font color=blue>

Hi Kimo,

Culturally understand the cousin part. But give counseling a try first, maybe your husband does not understand what your issues are. Sounds like you need romance and attention from him. He may have some issues as well. 27 years is worth saving. A lot of people will feel the effect of what you and your cousin decide. Seek counseling.

Use The Golden Rule in braking up with your husband and remember honesty is always the best. Maybe you are doing him a favor in leaving, such traumatic event might get him out of the couch and get a life.