[9874]

Here's a thought on marriage. A marriage, or any relationship for that matter, is only as strong as its weakest link.
When the going gets tough it will only get as good as the weakest link. What do I mean by that? If only one partner is willing to take responsibility for his/her contributions to the relationship troubles, and (if necessary) seeks out the necessary guidance, and makes the necessary changes, there's little chance of this relationship holding up.
Whereas if both partners take responsibility for their contributions and are willing to put in the effort and action to make positive changes, big chance this will work out.

Just reflecting on my failed marriage.....

Bottom line, both need to have a desire to make it work. And take responsibility for one's contributions and attempt to rectify them.

[LMo]

[alisandria]

Very smart observations, too bad others don't think that way, especially when in the thick of it. I can think of several couples right now going through some things, and if they only had your insight. hugs, Lisa

[altonwoodsdrphil]

I can tell that you've been thru a bad experience,in time the pain will subside and you will meet someone who once more will light your fire.my best advice to you is to try very hard to understand what part you played in your previous relationship. What could I have done diffrently,or why have I made the choices in partners that I've made?
my father was married 6-7 times I don't know,i lost track...he carried his issues from relationship to relationship,but never stopped to do anything about it.I wish you much better