[Banexatreyu]

So I was with someone for almost 7 years. We fought like cats and dogs. I have bipolar and stressful situations cause me to go way up or way down. Anyway at times I'd break things off and I'd end up in a new relationship doing odd things. Like quitting my job where I was being trained to be a supervisor and moving 3 hours away to be with a girl I knew for about a week. Once they diagnosed me as bipolar this girl I was with for 7 years decided to jump on it. Saying I wasn't bipolar and that it's a misdiagnosis. But since we couldn't get along as friends either (a lot of hurtful comments were said I won't go into them right now.) so I broke things off with her. Since then she's been guilt trippy and making me feel like this is all my fault. I've already crawled back to her several times and my family has finally put their two cents in and has told me that I'm doing the right thing and that she hasn't been a good girlfriend in the past and that we just aren't right for each other. Anyway I still have these thoughts that we will be alright we're going to get back together we're going to be happy again we won't be fighting anymore yada yada but deep down I have this nagging feeling that it's just hopeful thinking. I'm also dating a girl right now who has been here for me and wants me to do whatever I can to get better. Which I do like her but I'm just stuck between these choices and these feelings. I've never been to this point before so I'm unsure of what to do. Kind of uncharted waters for me so any advice or anything will be greatly appreciated.

[hamster-bamster]

When the original girl claims it is a mis-dx, does she offer alternative explanations? Moving 3 hours away to be with somebody you just met does sound manic. Poor judgment, impulsivity are symptoms of mania. Quitting the job also could be manic. So if she questions the dx, what does she offer instead to explain those odd behaviors?

The girl is guilt-tripping you and making you feel that it is all your fault. More frequently, in relationships, both people contribute to the good times and both people contribute to the bad times. Not always, but this is more common. So to the extent that she wants you to feel guilty, she probably should be dropped at this juncture - you do not need people intent on making you feel guilty.

The problem with the other girl is the opposite - she seems to be too enthusiastic about your getting better. This sort of over-enthusiastic involvement in your life might seem suffocating to you with time. You also might feel that you are bound to disappoint her in her expectations of your getting better if you do not get better. This might become an awkward situation. Not saying it is impossible, though.

[Banexatreyu]

To her it was that "that was just me" and then is now saying that it just seems unfair that I should have bipolar ontop of everything else I've gone through. We did have good times but it was just a lot of bad times too. Just way too much fighting and it felt like sooner or later we would've hit a road block in the relationship. But I had become so dependant on her that I feel like leaving her is hurting her. As I was told in the past she would kill herself if I ever left because I was the only thing keeping her alive and had also been told that once when I broke up with her (from her mother) that it was my fault that she cut and that it was me who almost killed her so I better stay with her.
The new girl she isn't really enthusiastic about me getting better she just wants to know if I'll be hospitalized so she knows I'll be out of contact for a couple days. That I'm doing alright and that I need stability in my life. I'm just more worried about if she'll be able to handle someone who is bipolar. It's not the easiest thing in the world to deal with especially if you have no experience with it.

[hamster-bamster]

So the original girl has lot of MH issues on her own - right?