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Old Jul 29, 2013, 07:00 PM
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I recently split with the father of my child a few months ago as things were very rocky. Id also had trust issues from finding multiple messages to other girls from him which broke my heart.

We have decided to give it another go. But things have changed. I cannot imagine myself spending the rest of my life with him, as i dont think that trust will ever come back.

Ive developed a complex for him touching me. Hugs, squeezes, even the lightest touch when he brushed past me i hate it, and i dont want him touching me without my permission. Im still sexually active with him, but its with my permission and on my terms. Even sleeping next to him and i can feel his body heat is becoming extremely difficult for me. Ive never had this problem before - with anyone, so why now? Is it because of the lack of trust? I dont get it.
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Old Jul 29, 2013, 08:19 PM
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Your daughter has a beautiful name.

I would suggest you listen to the signals sent to you via this discomfort with touch. Maybe you should just separate before you grow even more averse to his presence.
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Old Jul 29, 2013, 09:16 PM
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I agree with hamster. Trust what your body is telling you.
Also - I love, trust and am sexually attracted to my partner, and sometimes when she touches me I pull away and don't want to be touched. Since I have started tuning more into myself, my body and the idea of 'consent' and what it really means, and the idea that I don't have to be 100% down for whatever all the freaking time, I realize that I don't want to be touched all the time. Whatever your preference is, that's okay too. But yeah...it sounds to me like it's over with your partner.
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